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Are your 20s really the best time of your life?

Myth Debunked: Are your twenties really the best years of your life?

For the last few years of my life, I was constantly in a state of frustration and haste. Why? Because I thought I had wasted the best years of my life.

I was told by media, Hollywood, peers, and adults that your twenties are the best years of your life. I even asked one of my friends to confirm if it was true, “Once I get a job, is it all downhill from here?”

“Yes, it is,” he replied. He had bought into the idea as well.

Despite all my hurried attempts to seize that time, it just wasn’t happening. I didn’t have the money, status, or extroversion to party it up with beautiful supermodels.

And then, something happened. I realized the whole thing was a lie.

Are your twenties really the best years of your life?

No matter what age you are in life, you may have had this idea pop-up. Death is coming. It’s over from here. It’s only going to get worse. Even being the positive self-help enthusiast I am, I couldn’t help but to buy into this and fall into a quarter-life crisis. Where was the proof this wasn’t true?

Then, I stumbled into this beautiful mid-life crisis story by Alice Schroeder, the author of Warren Buffett’s biography The Snowball. This is from her Reddit Ask Me Anything:

warren buffett mid life crisis story

Your twenties aren’t the end. They’re just the beginning. But as Alice mentioned, it’s worth it if you can invest in your experiences so that they compound into an avalanche of unexpected positive events later on in life.

In this podcast episode, I will share with you:

  • studies from the science of happiness on what really matters.
  • new evolutionary science on how your biological clock relates to this.
  • experiences and shocking lessons learned from men who are highly successful with women (some of who started as losers).

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Show Notes: Other Helpful Resources

Check out the previous podcast episode I did on being rich but happy. There are some great resources in the Show Notes, especially Dan Bilzerian’s interview, which are relevant to this discussion.

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Billionaire Oprah Winfrey on Success Habits, Principles and Peak Performance

18 Success Tips from Billionaire Oprah Winfrey on Principles, Mindset, & Career

Oprah Winfrey is one of my favorite billionaires because she’s unique. Unlike most of the others, she overcame two discriminating obstacles (being black and female) to become a billionaire in an unconventional field to make a billion in: entertainment. On top of that, she had a tough early life of sexual and physical abuse, and a miscarriage of a child as a teen.

On top of that, she’s did it without sacrificing happiness or destroying relationships. And started her own company and TV network as a entrepreneur-extraordinare.

After spending a lot of time studying her (reading her book What I Know For Sure, watching Stanford Q&A by her, listening to amazing NPR special on her, etc.), I wanted to share with you 18 of her secrets to success.

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Billionaire Oprah Winfrey on Success Habits, Principles and Peak Performance
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1. Be Enthusiastic

Oprah was always bursting with energy and emotion. She talked about topics she was deeply interested in, like female dating problems. That enthusiasm transferred over to her audience and made her magnetic. When she announced what was the next book in her book club, she said it like she was announcing something incredible.

2. Keep Your Blinders On And Just Run Your Own Race

There will always be copycats, so be okay with it. During her long TV host career, Oprah told all her staff to just focus on what you’re doing and not what any other talk show host was doing. You can’t win the race by looking over your shoulder. Over two hundred talk shows competed (and went away) during Oprah’s time as a host.

None of her team ever went out to do any research on what other hosts were doing or try to copy it. When Oprah started getting successful, big TV executives tried copy her format by hiring black, female hosts and show format, but it didn’t work.

3. There Are Only Two Emotions: Love And Fear

You can only experience love or fear, but not both at once. This was a mantra that Oprah internalized in her team. It helped out when they went to Georgia after the biggest riot and lynching in the 80’s to interview people. Racism was rampant and it was a dangerous time. They sent death threats to leave but the team was not scared because they followed Oprah’s mantra to only live by love.

4. Be Fearless of What You Want To Do and Take the Leap

Take risks. Discover what you want to do with your life over time and commit to it. For decades, the content of Oprah’s show was trashy because they featured a lot of controversial, scandalous topics (think Jerry Springer). But it was the #1 show in the world and had viewership 12 to 13 million a day.

She had spent years finding her “message and mission” and finally decided it was to raise the consciousness of others. When she told her team she wanted to change the show to be a force for good, they didn’t want to because they were scared it would ruin their success. But she persisted and they did. Oprah’s viewership initially dropped to 9 million for a while, but it slowly climbed back up as they tested new ways to add positivity into what they did.

After a lot of thinking, she also decided she wanted to launch a book club on her show, which was dangerous, because people were reading less and less. It seemed like a dying market. Her book club eventually became the largest in the world and was responsible for selling over 100 million books.

Oprah Never Feared Losing Her Following

Oprah never feared losing her followers by trying something different on her show. This is because from the beginning, her audience was “following her as a person and her instincts to discover what was true and share that.” And as long as she kept being true to herself, at least one person out there would be interested in what she had to say.

4. Think of the Person on the Other End and What They Want (to a Specific Degree)

Oprah had a very specific persona she wanted to deliver her content too (it’s funny, Ellen said a similar thing in her books). She called the persona Suzy. The persona was a middle-aged housewife, which was the demographic of most of her viewers. She always asked whether Suzy would like something before she did it on her show.

Oprah also said that she never cared about her guests’ personal and dating lives. She thought it was private to them. But she knew her audience did so she made sure to ask questions about it to her celebrity guests. I found this a little hypocritical, but I guess this was at a time when it wasn’t against her values to invade privacy for her guests and to make a living.

Later on, when she started her book club, she found out that roughly 10% of her audience would always respond and buy the book she recommended every time. Therefore, 1 million people would buy her books each time. So she always asked whether or not the book she chose would be interesting to at least 1 million people before she recommended it on her show.

5. Always Have A Good Reason For Your Actions

Oprah always told her team to ask what the intention of each of their plans, goals, and tasks were. This helped eliminate a lot of projects put forth that would not have aligned or advanced the values they stood for.

Specifically, she said she only did things that aligned with her intention or it wouldn’t work. When the show was given an excess of cars to give away, Oprah made them ask why. She wouldn’t just let them give away cars.

It had to align with their intention and values for the show. Oprah only allowed it to happen if she chose people who really needed cars because her intention behind the show was around helping others who needed it. To this day, Oprah’s retirement finale episode where she gives away the cars is still parodied and mentioned in popular culture.

6. The Packaging Is Just As Important As the Gift

On the day of the car giveaway, Oprah made them redo everything because the bow was too small. It only covered a portion of the car but she wanted it to wrap around the entire car. This trivial thing seemed to be peculiar to me.

But when I thought about it, I considered if it may be a hidden secret to Oprah’s success. Delivery, service, and packaging are really important in giving gifts and the entertainment industry. Oprah’s delivery and setup of the car giveaway was just as important for the TV audience as the car itself.

7. Don’t Let False Words From Others Affect You. Keep Calm and Check The Truth

At one point during the show, cattlemen sued Oprah for millions of dollars because they claimed she used her massive audience to depress beef sales by talking badly about beef. They called her a manipulator.

Oprah kept calm, assessed the situation, knew she did not do it to manipulate or depress sales, and realized what was actually true. She was ultimately found not guilty.

8. Be Patient And Use Progressive Trial and Error To Find Your Purpose

It took Oprah decades to finally figure out the message and purpose of her show. Towards the end, she made her final tweak. She changed her show slogan from “Change Your Life” to “Live Your Best Life” because she wanted to make it less about spirituality and rapid change.

9. Start Scrappy

When Oprah began her talk show career, her team consisted of three other female producers sitting in a tiny room. It was so informal that they borrowed jewelry from each other and passed around notes.

10. Work Hard

Cliche but true. All of Oprah’s core team from the start of her talk show made the show their life. It was all they did from when they got up to when they went to bed.

11. Be Strategic

Oprah decided on Chicago as her ideal city to make her big break by a process of elimination. D.C. was too competitive and every radio station was already occupied by a black host. She was already living in and ready to move on from Baltimore. New York was too busy and movement-centric; she needed one place to settle down. Therefore, she made Chicago her goal for many years and strived to move towards that goal.

12. Be Relatable By Sharing Vulnerabilities

I believe this is more of a secret to success for people who have jobs or work in industries where they need to win people over by getting them to relate, like film, television, or selling.

The secret of television is to be yourself because people connect with people they relate with. Revealing vulnerabilities is a great way to be relatable.

In her first episode, she said she was so nervous there were hives under her armpits. This was unheard of because at the time, no one revealed anything personal on television, let alone their insecurities.

13. Do Something That Will Never Happen Again & Celebrate It

Oprah launched a TV show in an era where there were only a dozen TV channels out there, which meant you could capture up to 13 million women daily with her show if you’re good. This would never happen again as hundreds of TV channels have now popped up and tens of thousands of entertainment channels on the Internet.

14. Stand Out From The Crowd And Be Different

On a similar note, Oprah did things very differently from other hosts when she started. As mentioned, she revealed insecurities and showed her flaws, which was unheard of for TV hosts. She also pioneered something new on television by bringing on a lot of the most controversial guests, people who were openly racist, gay, or cheated on their wife.

Of course, this success principle is applicable to many areas of life. In business and career, it’s a competitive world. Being different from everyone else (who all look the same to the consumer or employer) can give you the advantage to get ahead.

15. Make The Experience Personal

The technical aspects of the show were built so that the viewer felt like she was sitting right next to Oprah. Most other talk shows set up their microphones so that the sounds felt like you were in a big room. But the microphones for Oprah’s show were hidden everywhere close to her, like inside couches, so that it felt like you conversing with Oprah.

I’m not sure if this tip is actually going to work for you. Maybe the core principle behind this tip is to “stand out.” Maybe this different way of wiring microphones only worked because it was different from everyone else.

16. Be Yourself

Oprah was genuinely herself on and off the show. She calls it one of her greatest talents. It was this unique ability that probably propelled her to success in a competitive television industry.

Again, this may also be an offshoot of Oprah’s main principle to stand out and be different from others.

17. Make Your Show A Scheduled Habit — At The Same Time Every Day

When she retired, Oprah thought her twenty million loyal fans would transfer over to her TV network but only a small fraction did. It turns out that they were not as loyal as she thought. She realized that it was the habit of watching her everyday at 4pm that she had programmed in them. And she lost that 4pm slot when she retired.

18. Be Blind To Race

Oprah is truly a one-of-a-kind billionaire. She said in her Stanford Q&A that she still finds herself in rooms of rich, white men. She’s often the only black female. But she said she never got to where she is by looking at someone and seeing their color. 

Conclusion

Like I said, I am blown away by Oprah’s story. I marvel at how she has overcome so many stereotype barriers to achieve her success in the form of wealth and impact.

Her story is also one of alignment. Everything worked together, and I noted how she was in the right place at the right time. She worked really hard, but also she had genetic talents that were useful in the era she was born. You always have to give credit to luck, no one is truly 100% self-made.

Small things she has said, like how she doesn’t look at someone by their race, has helped me through tough times and changed how I behave.

I hope you learned something from her as well. If there’s something impactful she said that I missed, let me know in the comments. I’d love to know.

 

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How Billionaires Use Morning Rituals To Get More Done

How Billionaires Create Rituals To Get More Done

 

Billionaires are a rare breed. They are in the top 1% of the 1% of the 1%. They’re world-class at making money and all the skills that come with that.

What if we could really break down their rituals? What if we could find patterns we can follow ourselves? That’s what I intend to do. Unlike other self improvement articles out there, I have spent a good portion of my life actually studying billionaires — not just for a few minutes to churn out an article.

You will learn:

  • Daily rituals of billionaires.
  • Morning rituals of billionaires.
  • Productivity patterns of billionaires.
  • The differences between billionaires.
  • Why you shouldn’t always follow what a billionaire does.
  • Much more.

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Show Notes

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Secret of Self Discipline

The Secret of Self Discipline

Self-discipline (also known as willpower) seem to be an obvious key to success. Successful people seem to be able to focus and stay on track. They form good habits and are less tempted by unproductive or unhealthy activities. All of that seems to revolve around the idea of self-discipline.

So what’s the secret to self-discipline (also known as willpower)?

Today, I want to share with you what billionaires and other successful people have to say on improving your self discipline.

You will learn:

  • a special technique I stumbled across that can get you started on good habits immediately.
  • why self discipline is even more important than you think, based on billionaires’ advice.
  • how to improve your self-discipline, based on science and case studies.
  • what some celebrities have to say about improving willpower.
  • even more surprising advice.

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  • His second video on Willpower:

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The Most Powerful Tip I Learned From Self Help Books

Today, I want to share with you the most powerful bit of advice I have gotten from reading hundreds of self-help themed books. If you put this advice into action, it will multiply your income, fulfillment, health, and happiness. That is a bold claim, so I will prove to you that it is true.

Once you discover what it is, I will through how it logically makes perfect sense. In fact, it is common sense. Yet most people don’t exercise it.

Usually, I don’t agree with “magic pill solutions.” In every industry, whether it is fitness or business, you get lazy people who want some “quick trick” to achieve their goals. And that’s exactly not what I am talking about here, so if you are one of those lazy people, you’re in the wrong place.

I don’t believe you need only one technique to solve all your problems, but I have definitely stumbled across some incredible techniques that transform a large portion of your life. You can’t help but not do so when you consume so much content. So along with my #1 tip, I will also share with you a couple bonus tips that have equal or even greater value.

All I ask you to do is hear what I have to say and test it out for yourself. If it doesn’t work, there is no loss. If it does, then you end up extremely ahead.

Without further ado, here is my podcast episode on The Most Powerful Tip I Learned From Self Help Books. Click the play button to listen to it below:

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