Why Overcoming Hidden Shame and Guilt Is The Key To Success (and How)

Brené Brown is a University of Houston research professor who has spent her life studying shame and vulnerability.

For most of human civilization, men have hid behind the mask of masculinity, concealing any signs of shame and vulnerability because they believed that a man should show nothing but strength.

But it turns out that Brené found that these are vital parts of mental health and working relationships. Men are waking up and realizing this, with Lewis Howes writing a book behind it.

 

“Vulnerability is not weakness. I define vulnerability as emotional risk, exposure, uncertainty … Vulnerability is our most accurate measure of courage.” -Brené Brown

Are you dealing with shame? How do you identify it and how do you fix it? Listen to my podcast episode to find out:

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“Shame is a focus on self. Guilt is a focus on behavior.” -Brené Brown

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Ultimate Mens Dating Guide

Mate by Tucker Max Book Summary and Review: The New Science of Attraction (Updated)

A few years ago, I discovered the world of online dating advice. At the time, I felt like I had discovered a super power. Until that point, I thought that your success with women was fixed and there was nothing you could do about it. Finding out there were techniques I could use immediately to improve was like discovering the holy grail.

Unfortunately, these tactics and “blueprints” were horrible. They were inaccurate and produced few results. Dating coaches and pick up artists claimed to have found the “science of attraction” but it was a pseudoscience at best. They really just shot at the dark and taught what worked. It was far from a rigorous scientific process.

Now, that has changed. In the last two decades, tons of new experiments have been done by actual scientists on attraction. There is a lot more data you can trust and the results can be counter-intuitive. This is the men’s dating guide I wish I received years ago. And it’s all here for you for free.

The lessons I learned and will share come from a book called Mate: Become the Man Women Want. The book is based on extensive research on into evolutionary biology and mating. A man who is really good with women (Tucker Max) partnered up with a Ph.D. to go through thousands of shocking studies.

Humans are lucky creatures because there are so many areas (behavioral, social, fitness, mental health, fashion, etc.) we can improve. Other animals are screwed with what they were born with (like how long their antlers are).

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Books written by billionaires

169 Books Written By Billionaires (A Constantly Updated, Complete List)

If you read all of these, you will not come out the same person you came in (and I mean in a good way).

Here is a list of all the books written by billionaires.

I have looked all over the Internet for a list and I have yet to find a list that even comes close to what I’ve compiled here. The reason is simply because no one seems to be as plugged into the billionaire universe and the books out there as me. Nor have many people set out a goal to read most or any of them.

Richard Branson made a good point in his book that news and internet estimates of net worth are usually wildly off in both directions.

I tried my best to make this list as accurate as possible. I put more weight on the only two net worth sources I trust: Forbes Net Worth Billionaire List and Fortune. If I had any doubt if people were billionaires, I put their books in a separate list in a section at the bottom.

If you know of a book by a billionaire not on this list, leave a comment. I will keep updating this page. 

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crossfit secrets to success

How To Become A Top CrossFit Games Athlete: Secrets to Success

When you want to get better, you hang around the people who are already like how you want to be. At least that’s what people say…

Since I started my CrossFit journey a year ago, I figured that if I am going to do this, I might as well do it right. Why not learn from the best of the best? I studied all the interviews and videos of the best athletes I could find online. I dissected Rich Froning’s book and interviews to distill his CrossFit success secrets in its own article.

The next step was reaching out to any regional or CrossFit Games competitors and seeing if any were kind enough take the time to answer my questions. Here is what they said:

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Mark Manson Membership Review and Demo

An Honest Review of Mark Manson’s Paid Membership Program

For a night of great entertainment, I recommend watching one of the events in the CrossFit Games. I like to watch this for the competition, motivation, ridiculousness , fun, and the fit women in sports bras.

Here’s a video of the “Individual Assault Banger” event, for example. They literally have to smash a 175 pound block with a big red hammer through their legs and across the field.

Other than random CrossFit videos, I like to spend my time improving my earning potential, happiness, relationships, health, and work towards my dream life — and that’s why I purchased Mark Manson’s membership program.

If you’re not familiar with Mark, he’s one of the top personal development bloggers, with a site that attracts millions of readers every month and a new New York Times #1 best-selling book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck, which has already sold over a million copies. He has a blunt style of telling you how to improve your life — and he backs it up with science and case studies of successful people.

I bought his paid membership, which features a few full-length courses, premium articles, and bonuses. Here’s my honest review of it…

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Should you drop out of high school or college?

Can You Get Rich Without A High School Diploma or College?

It can seem like most billionaires were born into rich or middle-class families. But can someone really get rich from nothing? Can they really be self-made?

Also, it seems like they all made their money through starting a business in a boring industry. But can you become a billionaire without having to start a business? Can you do it in a non-boring, new industry?

Maybe. Let me show you how…

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When Working Harder Isn't Working - Work Smarter Not Harder Dont Overwork like Gary Vaynerchuk

Read This When Working Harder Isn’t Making Life Better

As I have been poring over books on social anxiety, entrepreneurship, and nice guy qualities, I have come across a shocking realization…

Working harder is not always a symbol of achievement. Sometimes, it’s worn as one in disguise, but in reality, it’s an excuse to avoid doing something uncomfortable.

This is especially important because:

  • Doing what makes you know needs to be done, even if it’s uncomfortable, is crucial for success in life.
  • American society paints the hustler who works 18 hour days as a champion and therefore, it’s easy to hide under this lie.

One story from the book, No More Mr. Mice Guy, is a great illustration:

An accountant, who was the author’s client, was taught by his parents that money was the most important thing in life to success and happiness. Therefore, he spent the first 40 years of his life working non-stop, thinking that women would naturally come to him once he was rich…

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