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The Fung Bros Give Advice to Asian Americans on Success, Excuses, Dating, and Social Media Growth

The Fung Bros Give Advice to Asian Americans on Success, Excuses, Dating, and Social Media Growth

The Fung Brothers are a Chinese-American duo consisting of comedians and rappers, Andrew Fung and David Fung. They have a successful Hip Hop foodie and streetwear YouTube channel, with almost 2 million subscribers.

Here’s my interview with them. We talk Asian American obstacles, overcoming excuses, social media growth tips, dating & wealth advice, and more.

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How To Master Your Asian Masculinity & Live The Life You Want with Kevin Kreider

How To Master Your Asian Masculinity & Live The Life You Want with Kevin Kreider

Kevin Kreider is an Asian American male model, life coach, speaker, fitness trainer, social media influencer, and bodybuilding competitor.

As a child, he was bullied for his skinny figure and race, while struggling with Tourette’s Syndrome. Kevin has won several natural bodybuilding competitions and spoke at TEDx. Now, he helps other Asian American men cultivate their Asian American masculinity through life coaching.

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How being open-minded literally changes the way you see the world

The Difference Between Open-Minded and Closed-Minded People

I used to be pretty close-minded when I was younger. I thought I was right when I wasn’t. I had a limited set of hobbies. I wasn’t interesting and interested in others so I came off boring and cold.

But I didn’t want a boring life without friends or women. So I started to change my perspective.

I’ll show you how to become more open minded.

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best books to read to get smarter

5 Best Books To Read To Get Smarter

Do you ever feel overwhelmed or confused which book to read?

With thousands of books, it’s frustrating to determine which books will actually make you smarter. You don’t want to waste your time. Yet you feel ambitious because you want to improve yourself. The sad truth is that most “Top 10 Books to Get Smarter” articles are written by content factories with authors who don’t actually read. They don’t like reading and they pull random books out of their butt to get traffic for their site.

From someone who has read hundreds of books, I want to provide you a solid list of actual books you can read to get smarter.

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The Secrets to Asian American Male Millennial Dating

The Secrets to Asian American Male Dating with Mike “SquattinCassanova”

In this podcast, I interview Mike “SquattinCassanova”, an Asian dating coach.

We talk about:

  • are Asian men undateable?
  • the insecurities we deal with
  • the differences in race when it coming to dating
  • struggles Asian American millennial men have in dating
  • the importance of not blaming or feeling like you deserve anything
  • how we can become strong, masculine Asian men and why it matters
  • the importance of having a positive mental attitude and not having a victim mentality
  • what you missed out on growing up that you should do more of to improve (hint: includes team sports and socializing)
  • the differences between male and female mate value (preview: unlike females, male mate value rise into their late 30’s)
  • Elliot Rodger

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How To Buy Your First Suit Without Breaking The Bank And Still Looking Sharp

How To Buy Your First Suit Without Breaking The Bank And Still Looking Sharp

Ask anyone about style and the suit will always come up as one of the most stylish, timeless pieces of clothing you can wear.

The reason is simple. It makes your body shape look more attractive, improves your shoulder-to-waist ratio, the top scientifically correlated physical trait for male attraction, and symbolizes the most formal, expensive presentation you can deliver.

A suit signifies that you show respect and shows that you take your job interview, career, and life seriously, which brings respect.

But how do you buy a suit without breaking the bank? What if this is your first job interview and you don’t have thousands of dollars to spend?

This video will break down:

  • how to gauge the quality of a suit
  • how to get the best bargain price for a suit
  • how there is a time and place to buy expensive suits
  • why people judge others by appearance and how this is okay
  • why you shouldn’t spend too much on the first suit (hint: $500 is over kill)
  • how to leverage the power of diminishing returns (hint: this has to do with how and why billionaires get away with wearing secondhand suits)
  • why context, industry, and frequency matter in your decision and how to use this to get the best price point
  • why fashion social media influencers are incentivized to promote $1,000+ suits
  • why physical presentation is part of the meritocracy game (for you frustrated introverts who think it’s what on the inside that counts)
  • how to buy a suit and make sure it fits without getting overwhelmed by all the dozens of factors involved that other people say you should care about (hint: I cover a handful of the most important and explain why you should just focus on these)
  • the best time of year to buy the suit and how (and why) the articles that rank on Google are wrong with the time of year they suggest
  • a story of my experience with a Men’s Wearhouse salesman and how to avoid getting tricked liked a sucker by someone who wants to make a quick buck

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No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover Book Summary & Review

No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover Book Summary & Review

“There are no perfect relationships. There are no perfect partners. Relationships by their very nature are chaotic, eventful, and challenging.”
― Robert A. Glover, No More Mr. Nice Guy

One of the books that has had the most profound impact on my life is Dr. Robert Glover’s No More Mr. Nice Guy.

The book uncovers:

  • the truth about the stereotypical Nice Guy
  • why modern society has created so many of them
  • why they fail to get the relationships and career success they crave
  • how to take back your life in an honest, non-manipulative way without becoming a jerk

It also goes into detailed stories of many of his Nice Guy clients and specific steps on how to break free from this behavior.

Dr. Glover understands Nice Guys deeply, having coached thousands of them as a licensed psychotherapist. He adeptly addresses specific common questions like, “Why is it a bad thing to be nice?” and “How do I talk to a girl without making it seem like I’m hitting on her?”

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The Secret Power of Being Fully Present in the Moment

How To Live in the Present in the Moment (And Why It’s Key)

With the rising popularity of emotional intelligence and meditation for success, a related concept has been popping up all the time: staying present in the moment.

What does “living in the here and now” actually mean?

This article will help you discover how being present can improve your wealth, happiness, love life, and relationships.

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Why Defeating Shame & Vulnerability May Be The Key To Success: Daring Greatly by Brené Brown

Brené Brown is a University of Houston research professor who has spent decades studying shame and vulnerability.

For most of human civilization, men have hid behind the mask of masculinity, concealing any signs of shame and vulnerability because they believed that a man should never show weakness.

But it turns out that Brené found that vulnerability is a vital part of mental health, communication, and working relationships through her scientific study. Men are waking up and realizing this — even entrepreneurs like Lewis Howes have wrote books on it.

If you’re not familiar with the vulnerability, shame, and guilt movement, start out by checking our Brené’s TED talk, which has gotten millions of views:

“Vulnerability is not weakness. I define vulnerability as emotional risk, exposure, uncertainty … Vulnerability is our most accurate measure of courage.” -Brené Brown

Are you dealing with shame? How do you identify if you have it and how do you handle it? Listen to my podcast episode to find out:

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“Shame is a focus on self. Guilt is a focus on behavior.” -Brené Brown

Here are some key lessons I learned from her book, Daring Greatly: 

  • There is no data that shows there is any benefit to shame.
  • Shame resiliency is the ability to realize what you did is still worth it regardless of the risks of shame and embarrassment.
  • Shame resiliency is important and useful and can be improved.
  • Validating your self-worth based on the external is a recipe for disaster and shame. You must be okay with what you do and who you are regardless of what others think.
  • Vulnerability is not weakness. It is courage.
  • Denying vulnerability that exists is weakness because you have a weakness you’re not admitting.
  • Vulnerability is not revealing your deepest secrets to strangers. Get to know someone and see if you can trust them first.
  • Trust must be slowly built over time.
  • Every action that someone you know takes to show their reliability (or lack thereof) is another score on your trust scorecard to determine if you can trust them.
  • Men get their shame not only from other men, but also from the women they know. Women also get massive shame from other women. Both genders try to live up to a perfect ideal of who they have to be that’s impossible.
  • Research shows that there is nothing good to perfectionism. It leads to depression, life paralysis, and many other issues. It’s caused through approval-seeking.
  • The data shows that shame is correlated with depression and suicide, while guilt is inversely correlated. Therefore, you want to train yourself, your children, and others to use guilt rather than shame. Get them to shame stuff like, “I made a stupid decision” rather than “I am a stupid person.”

My Own Shame

Discovering these books and reflecting on my own experiences with shame have been a wake-up call. Since I was young, I would have flash-backs to experiences I had that would seep shame and embarrassment. Usually, this occurred when my mind was free, like in the shower or driving.

After listening to The Mating Grounds podcast, I realized this is fairly common. Rather than push away the thoughts like I used to, I was encouraged to come to terms with them.

This has helped me meet these memories and feelings head-on. I came to realize that some of that shame is illogical.

For example, I would think, “I can’t believe I barged into that conversation and mentioned how I went to visit the same city recently. I must have come off like I was bragging and full of myself.”

But when I assess the situation, I was placing way too much shame and assumption on myself for simply trying to be part of a conversation. I will take these lessons and try to be more compassionate with myself.

Loving-kindness meditation has been helpful.

This whole topic has helped me become more self-aware of how I treat myself. I have realized that I need more self-love and need to stop beating myself up at times for fear of offending people.

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Ultimate Mens Dating Guide

Mate by Tucker Max Book Summary and Review: The New Science of Attraction (Updated)

A few years ago, I discovered the world of online dating advice. At the time, I felt like I had discovered a super power. Until that point, I thought that your success with women was fixed and there was nothing you could do about it. Finding out there were techniques I could use immediately to improve was like discovering the holy grail.

Unfortunately, these tactics and “blueprints” were horrible. They were inaccurate and produced few results. Dating coaches and pick up artists claimed to have found the “science of attraction” but it was a pseudoscience at best. They really just shot at the dark and taught what worked. It was far from a rigorous scientific process.

Now, that has changed. In the last two decades, tons of new experiments have been done by actual scientists on attraction. There is a lot more data you can trust and the results can be counter-intuitive. This is the men’s dating guide I wish I received years ago. And it’s all here for you for free.

The lessons I learned and will share come from a book called Mate: Become the Man Women Want. The book is based on extensive research on into evolutionary biology and mating. A man who is really good with women (Tucker Max) partnered up with a Ph.D. to go through thousands of shocking studies.

Humans are lucky creatures because there are so many areas (behavioral, social, fitness, mental health, fashion, etc.) we can improve. Other animals are screwed with what they were born with (like how long their antlers are).

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Mark Manson Membership Review and Demo

An Honest Review of Mark Manson’s Paid Membership Program

For a night of great entertainment, I recommend watching one of the events in the CrossFit Games. I like to watch this for the competition, motivation, ridiculousness , fun, and the fit women in sports bras.

Here’s a video of the “Individual Assault Banger” event, for example. They literally have to smash a 175 pound block with a big red hammer through their legs and across the field.

Other than random CrossFit videos, I like to spend my time improving my earning potential, happiness, relationships, health, and work towards my dream life — and that’s why I purchased Mark Manson’s membership program.

If you’re not familiar with Mark, he’s one of the top personal development bloggers, with a site that attracts millions of readers every month and a new New York Times #1 best-selling book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck, which has already sold over a million copies. He has a blunt style of telling you how to improve your life — and he backs it up with science and case studies of successful people.

I bought his paid membership, which features a few full-length courses, premium articles, and bonuses. Here’s my honest review of it…

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How To Identify Fake Excuses that Are Limiting Your Potential Even If You're A Procrastinator

How To Identify Fake Excuses that Are Limiting Your Potential Even If You’re A Procrastinator

“He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else.” -Benjamin Franklin

One common, frustrating theme I have found when talking to people who have mediocre lives is that they’re all excuse-generating machines.

Every time I try to give reasons that their obstacles are solvable and tactics to do so, they come up with a mediocre excuse so that they can remain where they are. I recently had an especially frustrating case of this recently with an Indian man I met who had trouble making friends.

After hearing about my own struggles with this, he came up to me and told me he had similar problems but he was over a decade older than me.

He also had insecurities with his race because most of the people he met were white and he thought he couldn’t relate to them.

But as I dove into the issue, my eagerness to help quickly turned into frustration as I discovered he was immovable as a rock with his beliefs about the world…

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2017: A Year in Reflection

2017: A Year in Reflection

2017 has been a year where I have dived deeper into the subtleties of personal development.

What the heck does that mean?

Well, only a small percent of the public ever get into self-development. Of those that do, most of them focus on fundamental, surface-level tactics. An example would be what you see in listicle-themed content on YouTube and blogs (Top 10 Tips to Boost Your Confidence, Get Over Your Anxiety, or Make Your First $1,000).

The problem with these tactics is that they only get you so far.

If life was simply about following these tips to achieve your goals, then everyone would be a fit, happy, world-traveling millionaire. But we’re not.

Clearly, there’s a missing piece to the puzzle. You can see this most deeply in the “How to Be A Millionaire” content online. There are hundreds of videos, books, courses, and articles on this topic. Yet tons of people have eagerly tried to follow the advice, only to be met with disappointing results.

Take a different approach.

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How Shy Introverts Can Succeed in Social Settings, Make Friends, Get Dates & Further Their Career

How Introverts Can Get Over Shyness: Secrets to Quiet People

“Solitude matters, and for some people, it’s the air they breathe”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking

There are just as many shy introverts as outgoing extroverts out there. So why does it seem like we’re being left out? Why does it feel like we’re not getting as far ahead? Why do we feel frustrated as if we should speak more or be more like the extroverts?

It’s clear that Western society honors the man who pushes his way to the front. But what about the rest of us? Even people who claim to be “extroverted introverts” can still feel like they weren’t dealt the best hand in life.

In this podcast episode, I’m going to share with you what I learned about succeeding as a shy introvert from:

  • reading all the top books on introversion including Quiet: The Power of Introversion and Introversion Power
  • going through scientific studies comparing introverts to extroverts
  • applying the tips I learned in the books and online in real life to see if it works (hint: it sometimes doesn’t)
  • sharing strategies I’ve come up with on my own when theories consistently didn’t work in the real world

You’ll also learn why so many Asian Americans are introverts (spoilers: it’s a mix of culture, upbringing, and who they grow up with).

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Question of the day: What’s the #1 action step you learned from the podcast that you will apply to your own life immediately? Leave a comment and let me know.

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