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How To Find Your Passion and Land Your Dream Job

How To Find Your Passion and Land Your Dream Job: The Ultimate Guide

How do you find a job or start a business and make a lot of money doing it without making the wrong choice? I spent years trying to find my passion and make it a career. I consumed every video, interview, podcast, and book out there on the topic.

Even now, there isn’t as much good, thorough advice as I want. But there is great advice out there that is just scattered among hundreds of interviews and speeches from successful people. I’ve compiled the best of what I’ve learned, what makes the most sense, and what actually has worked in the real world — not theory. Here’s the guide I wish I had for myself years ago:

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How Shy Introverts Can Succeed in Social Settings, Make Friends, Get Dates & Further Their Career

How Introverts Can Get Over Shyness: Secrets to Quiet People Psychology and Success in Life

“Solitude matters, and for some people, it’s the air they breathe”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking

There are just as many shy introverts as outgoing extroverts out there. So why does it seem like we’re being left out? Why does it feel like we’re not getting as far ahead? Why do we feel frustrated as if we should speak more or be more like the extroverts?

It’s clear that Western society honors the man who pushes his way to the front. But what about the rest of us? Even people who claim to be “extroverted introverts” can still feel like they weren’t dealt the best hand in life.

In this podcast episode, I’m going to share with you what I learned about succeeding as a shy introvert from:

  • reading all the top books on introversion including Quiet: The Power of Introversion and Introversion Power
  • going through scientific studies comparing introverts to extroverts
  • applying the tips I learned in the books and online in real life to see if it works (hint: it sometimes doesn’t)
  • sharing strategies I’ve come up with on my own when theories consistently didn’t work in the real world

You’ll also learn why so many Asian Americans are introverts (spoilers: it’s a mix of culture, upbringing, and who they grow up with).

Enjoy:

Question of the day: What’s the #1 action step you learned from the podcast that you will apply to your own life immediately? Leave a comment and let me know.

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An Honest 5 Minute Journal Review: The Truth About Journaling & Morning Routines

A new fad has been sweeping through the personal development movement.

Journaling. But is it just a useless fad seen as the next “magic pill” to success or is it legit?

There are even popular journals you can buy include the Five-Minute Journal, Mastery Journal, Freedom Journal, Morning Pages, and Miracle Morning (though this is more of a routine) as made famous by Alex and Mimi Ikonn, John Lee Dumas, Tim Ferriss, and Hal Elrod.

But there’s a huge problem with the current state of daily journals out in the market.

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How Dancing Taught Me How To Take The Lead In A Relationship As A Man

12 Ways Partner Dancing Taught Me How To Take The Lead In Relationships And Be A Man

I started going to drop-in dance classes to meet people and improve on the masculine traits I was lacking. I heard it was a good way to learn how to lead and be more assertive, which I lacked as a typical nice guy. But man, I learned so much more.

Fast forward a couple years, I have now done several classes of Salsa, Bachata, Tango, Ballroom, Cha Cha, Country Line Dancing, Swing, and Lindy Hop.

Here are some lessons I learned in being a man from these partner dances:

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10 Ways To Stay Positive No Matter What Negative Bullshit Comes Your Way

We aren’t perfect. We want to stay upbeat and positive all the time because it feels better, we feel better, and it helps us get more done and attract awesome people into our lives. But it’s hard. Life rocks us with tough times and negative people.

So how do you stay positive when your life isn’t going well or life events bring you down?

This has been a problem I have experimented with for years. I poured over the scientific literature, studied interviews and books of celebrities that always seemed upbeat (like Will Smith, Ellen DeGeneres, Oprah Winfrey, and Michael Strahan) and asked every person who was always beaming with positivity for advice.

I hold this problem deep in my heart because I was unhappy for a long stretch of time and naturally someone who dwells on negative events.

Why Does Positivity Matter?

Don’t take it from me; listen to one of the most famous, successful billionaires out there, Richard Branson. He wrote a blog post on why positivity is so important. Long story short, positivity can spread to others. It can make you and your team more productive and happy while making work more enjoyable.

Moreover, consider the downsides of negativity. I used to be a naturally negative person before I got into self help and I didn’t even realize it. Negative thinking can spiral downwards into depression, anxiety, lack of will to do anything, lack of energy, frustration, anger, resentment, frustration, jealousy, and/or a greater willingness to give up.

Here is what I found works:

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Rich Froning Mental Toughness

How To Become Mentally Strong: Advice From The World’s Best

A year ago, I stumbled on an article on how to be mentally strong that got a ton of comments and shares. It confused me. Why do all these people care about this?

I didn’t care about being mentally tough. I wanted money and happiness. And I didn’t see how mental toughness would help me with that unless I wanted to change my goals to becoming a Navy SEAL. But everything’s changed since then.

Mental toughness is incredibly important to your peak performance.

Today, I’m going to share with you everything you need to know on a critical skill you may be overlooking. I’ll share with you why mental toughness matters and how to improve it. And if you’re wondering why you should trust me, it’s because all my advice comes from people you can trust: the world’s top performers.

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The Luck Vs. Hard Work Debate: What Matters Most In Life Success

What matters in life in order to success? The standard debate goes something like this, “What bring success in life: luck vs hard work?”

But that’s the wrong approach. Both are at play. It is not one or the other. Also, there are more factors you can leverage to succeed.

Today, I cover the following topics:

  • How luck plays a role in someone’s success.
  • How hard work is a lot more valuable than you think.
  • Keys to motivating yourself and having a strong work ethic.
  • What matters more: luck, hard work and effort, or other factors (I’ll explain what these other factors are).
  • Does luck play an important role in life success? (Hint: It depends. Are you aiming to be #1 in the world or just to earn a good living?)

You should trust my advice on the luck versus hard work debate because I reference proof and case studies from successful people like Warren Buffett and Bill Gates.

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How To Stop Overthinking (And Everything That Comes With It: Self-Doubt, Self-Loathing, Internal Misery, and Zero Action

I got a question:

“I’m driving myself to insanity with over-thinking, self-analysis, self-doubt, self-loathing, internal misery and zero action. What do I do?”

Well, you’re talking to the king of overthinking. I’m definitely in the top 1% of overthinking and over-analyzing everything (I mean just look at this blog).

I didn’t think I was that bad until I started journaling all the thoughts I remembered happening after dates or stressful situations. I ended up with essays that were multiple pages long analyzing every issue. These thoughts included:

“If I say this, will I look weird?”

“They’re judging me because I’m one of the only Asians here.”

“Do I look weird or awkward? Why aren’t they talking to me? Do they hate me?”

When I showed it to people I trust, they were blown away by how much I thought. For some guys, all they think about during a single date is “This is going well.”

Yet I’ve been able to see noticeable progress by experimenting with a lot of tactics, including meditation, which has dramatically helped me stay present in the moment.

Listen to this new podcast episode for a full answer:

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Consult Others You Trust

Passing my essay to a group of men I trust online (this can be an online forum but preferably someone in person — I recommend the Order of Man Facebook group) helps give realistic feedback. When you’re in your own delusional world, you can’t tell what you’re doing wrong.

For me, these men identified the overthinking as a prime issue when I had it far down my list as a potential problem.

One of them told me that their only thoughts during a date where “She was pretty. It went well.” That really put into perspective a mentally healthier benchmark to aim for.

Meditation

Meditation isn’t for anyone and it takes a lot of time to ramp up. But it helps. It really helps identify how many thoughts the average person has through their day and how tough it is to just be present and enjoy the moment. I started with just two minutes a day so I didn’t burn out but now, I love and appreciate it. It’s been a year since I started.

I recommend Insight Timer App. It has thousands of guided meditations of many categories from some of the top meditation leaders, all for free – no upsells or hidden app purchases.

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Depressed, Disabled, Lonely, Abused, and No Friends. What Do I Do? (Updated)

I got a question from a mother who is going through tough times on multiple fronts. If you join my email newsletter (there’s plenty of places to sign up, such as at the bottom of this article), you can reply to an email with your question, and I will try to help you.

As the title of this article hints, she’s failing at most areas of life. Let’s call her Dana (not her real name)

I don’t tend to address issues like this because it attracts people I can’t help (even if I want to). My content is focused more on high achievers who can execute. But this time, I was compelled to answer (and post this with her permission) because it was so emotional, genuine, and almost everything I’ve released online started because I was like this women and wanted to learn how to get better. I want to add some value here, even if my tips won’t solve everything.

I’ve posted a shortened version of Dana’s question and my answer to help anyone going through something similar:

Hi Will,
I’m 55 years old and a single mom of 3.

I have been divorced for just over 11 years. My oldest son has Aspergers. So this had kept me home for a good portion of his upbringing. He is now 21.

When I was younger.. and I mean in my 20’s, I was confident, assertive. Happy go lucky. I was a pursuer (head flight attendant on international flights for a prominent airline), I could make decisions quickly, without a second thought, no second guessing. And I never doubted myself. I always knew what I needed to do or wanted to do. No matter what it was in regards to. My life, health wise, relationship wise, financial, family, ect.

I grew up pretty much alone. Living on my own since I was 16. I married at 28. My ex-husband was an alcoholic and emotionally abusive. This was the initial decent into depression for me.

I lost all my friends because I was not allowed to see anyone, in a round about way. We only hung out with his friends, or family.

So after a time, my friends stopped coming around.

Anyways, after years of emotional abuse, and becoming permanently disabled myself at 40, I divorced him.

I was so happy to be away from him. Having taken my kids away, to a happier place. It was a fresh start.
But I started to realize I had no friends, most my family was in other areas of the country. And since I was disabled and with no money, well.. it started to take its toll.

I am unable to work outside the home, so I didn’t have as much opportunity to meet people for friends or romantic relationships.

After one severely failed relationship, my depression started to spiral even more so. It’s hard to always be alone. And no matter how positive you try to be, when no one wants to be in a relationship with you because they are older and do not want younger children, especially someone else’s or they want a newer model (what I call younger women) and most women my age (for friendship) are too busy with their own crap.

So not only am I depressed, I have no one to talk to, I have lost all my friends, and I have no one in my life relationship wise, and the way I see myself and life has changed dramatically.

I am no longer the positive, quick thinking, know what I need to do person that I use to be.
Half the time, I cant figure out what to wear every day. Or what to make for dinner.

My kids don’t talk to me, and have little or no respect for me.

So Will, if you can write an article about taking a person from the dumps and building them up to at least feeling some semblance of happiness and confidence again, I would very much appreciate it because I honestly don’t know where to start.

My Response and Advice:

Thanks for the heartfelt message.

Wow. I’m no miracle worker and this seems to be a really tough situation.But I can try my best to help guide you towards the right path.
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