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10 New Habits To Help You Stay Positive No Matter What Negativity Comes Your Way

We aren’t perfect. We want to stay upbeat and positive all the time because it feels better, we feel better, and it helps us get more done and attract awesome people into our lives. But it’s hard. Life rocks us with tough times and negative people.

So how do you stay positive when your life isn’t going well or life events bring you down?

This has been a problem I have experimented with for years. I poured over the scientific literature, studied interviews and books of celebrities that always seemed upbeat (like Will Smith, Ellen DeGeneres, Oprah Winfrey, and Michael Strahan) and asked every person who was always beaming with positivity for advice.

I hold this problem deep in my heart because I was unhappy for a long stretch of time and naturally someone who dwells on negative events.

Here is what I found works:

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Depressed, Disabled, Lonely, Abused, and No Friends. What Do I Do? (Updated!)

I got a question from a mother who is going through tough times on multiple fronts. If you join my email newsletter (there’s plenty of places to sign up, such as at the bottom of this article), you can reply to an email with your question, and I will try to help you.

As the title of this article hints, she’s failing at most areas of life. Let’s call her Dana (not her real name)

I don’t tend to address issues like this because it attracts people I can’t help (even if I want to). My content is focused more on high achievers who can execute. But this time, I was compelled to answer (and post this with her permission) because it was so emotional, genuine, and almost everything I’ve released online started because I was like this women and wanted to learn how to get better. I want to add some value here, even if my tips won’t solve everything.

I’ve posted a shortened version of Dana’s question and my answer to help anyone going through something similar:

Hi Will,
I’m 55 years old and a single mom of 3.

I have been divorced for just over 11 years. My oldest son has Aspergers. So this had kept me home for a good portion of his upbringing.

When I was younger.. and I mean in my 20’s, I was confident, assertive. Happy go lucky. I was a purser (head flight attendant on int’l flights for a prominent airline), I could make decisions quickly, without a second thought, no second guessing. And I never doubted myself. I always knew what I needed to do, or wanted to do. No matter what it was in regards to. My life, health wise, relationship wise, financial, family, ect.

I grew up pretty much alone. Living on my own since I was 16. I married at 28. My ex-husband was an alcoholic and emotionally abusive. This was the initial decent into depression for me.

I lost all my friends because I was not allowed to see anyone, in a round about way.. We only hung out with his friends, or family. When my friends or family came over.. He was always doing something.

Mostly cleaning..lol. Long OCD story that goes with that. So after a time, they stop coming around. At least the friends did.

Anyway. after years of emotional abuse, and becoming permanently disabled myself at 40, I divorced him.

I was so happy to be away from him. Having taken my kids away, to a happier place. It was a fresh start.
But I started to realize I had no friends, most my family was in other areas of the country. And since I was disabled, no money, well.. it started to take its toll.

I am unable to work outside the home, so I didn’t have as much opportunity to meet people. For friends or relationships.

After one severely failed relationship, my depression started to spiral even more so. It’s hard to always be alone. And no matter how positive you try to be, when no one wants to be in a relationship with you because they are older and do not want younger children, especially someone else’s.( I had my children at an older age..), Or they want a newer model… lol.( what I laughingly call younger women that most men my age want but don’t admit to..). And most women my age,(for friendship), are too busy with their own crap.

So not only am I depressed. I have no one to talk to, I have lost all my friends. I have no one in my life relationship wise, and the way I see myself and life has changed dramatically.

I am no longer the positive, quick thinking, know what I need to do person that I use to be.
Half the time, I cant figure out what to wear every day. Or what to make for dinner.

My kids don’t talk to me, and have little or no respect for me.

So Will, if you can write an article about taking a person from the dumps and building them up to at least feeling some semblance of happiness and confidence again. I would be much appreciative. Because I honestly don’t know where to start.

Here’s my response (revised and expanded for all my readers):
Thanks for the heartfelt message.

Wow. I’m no miracle worker and this seems to be a really tough situation.But I can try my best to help guide you towards the right path.
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Billionaire Kevin Plank advice

Unsuccessful Business People Make Decisions Slow. See How Billionaires Are Different

How fast should you make a business decision? Should you spend weeks or months getting every fact to make sure you don’t screw over your company? It turns out that you want to decide fast.

Napoleon Hill spent his life studying 500+ of the richest people in the world in person thanks to his access with Andrew Carnegie. He wrote books telling us how they did it and how you can do the same.

One of the things that he said was that he and Carnegie found that if you are unable to make a quick decision even when you have enough information you need, you will not follow through on your goals or be successful.

Now, this is important for two reasons:

First, note that he says you need enough resources. This means that making decisions without enough information is foolish and it doesn’t matter how slow or fast you make them.

Second, once you have the necessary info, you have to make your decision quickly. Hill went on to say that successful people make decisions quickly and are slow to change. Unsuccessful people make their decisions slowly and are quick to change. 

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Brian Tracy Time Management Productivity

Brian Tracy’s Top 17 Time Management and Productivity Principles

“If you have two frogs, eat the ugliest one first.” -a Brian Tracy quote on time management (He’s telling you to do the hardest task first always).

How come some people seem to get three times as much done as us even though they don’t appear that much smarter or harder working?

I’ll tell you it has nothing to do with luck versus hard work. They are smarter with their time and get more done in a day than we do in a week by doing what’s most impactful first.

I wanted to share with you some of the top insights I have learned from studying time management masters. The advice here comes from extensive studying of Brian Tracy’s personal time management videos, articles, programs, and books. If you do not know who he is, he is a highly successful salesman, speaker, and personal development thought leader who started out as a broke high school drop out.

Enjoy:

1. Make A Mindset Shift

The first thing you have to do to be great at time management and productivity is a mindset shift.

Brian Tracy argues that all the techniques on time management in the world won’t help you if you still hold the belief that you are bad at time management.

He recommends you program into your subconscious that you are great at time management and organization even if you aren’t. When people ask you, tell them you are. You have to start believing it so that you don’t hold yourself back and so that your subconscious can move you towards new results.

Being better at productivity is a long-term habit-forming process. It takes determination, perseverance, and decisiveness to commit to the process.

You must be determined and keep working on it for an extended period of time. You really have to want to change and stick to it.

2. Understand Your Values

Now that this is covered, you need to understand what you value most. If you don’t set your priorities straight, how can you prioritize?

To properly prioritize, you must have values beyond just your career and business objectives. What are your values and goals for your life?

You could end up pursuing a goal that you don’t have any interest or in. This ends up being unproductive in the long run even if you’re efficient in completing the task. It’s unproductive because even if you can’t achieve that goal in half the time, it doesn’t matter because you don’t care about the goal.

To avoid burnout and exhaustion at work, you must combine a deep passion and interest with what you do at work. People who don’t enjoy what they work get burned out eventually from overwork.

However, others never burn out because work and play become synonymous. I’ve heard a lot successful people say this including Brian Tracy, Richard Branson, Will Smith, and Warren Buffett.

3. Use The Pareto Principle: What Is The Highest Impact Activity You Can Do? Do It.

The Pareto Principle is basically a concept that applies universally to many things in life: 80% of the results come from 20% of the work. An example of this playing through is wealth: 80% of the world’s wealth comes from less than 20% of the people in it.

You will find that this principle is more pronounced in certain areas. Use this in your prioritization.

Ask yourself: What is the #1 thing you can do this week that will bring you the highest impact?

What is the #2 thing?

Usually, it’s very obvious. Do that first. Begin the day with that.

Brian is well known for his catchphrase, “Eat the Frog!” It comes from the book with the same name. It describes street performers who will eat the ugliest frog first as part of an act to get it over with. In the same way, you must start with your ugliest, toughest task first. By doing so, you make the most progress.

By simply “eating your ugliest frog first”, time management becomes simple.

Another related principle that will help is the four quadrants principle called the Eisenhower Matrix.

4. Do This To Defeat Procrastination

Having trouble beginning? The best way to be productive is to begin immediately. Start your day with your most important task. To motivate yourself, say to yourself “Do it now! Do it right this instant!” 10 to 30 times with emotion and enthusiasm. It will help move you to begin.

Note: this doesn’t always work because you don’t enjoy what you do.

For example, you could be in law school or medical school only because your parents want you there. All the motivation in the world can’t push you to continue.

Push through short-term procrastination to move to a long-term goal you do like. For instance, do a job you don’t enjoy to work towards a long-term goal you will enjoy.

5. Avoid Distractions and Multitasking

Stopping and restarting an activity constantly can require 5 times the amount of energy. You get disoriented because you were interrupted, you have to readjust, you have to re-orient, and you have to prepare to begin again.

If you can, avoid any distractions that results in this kind of start-stop behavior. Stay focused.

Studies have shown multitasking to be unproductive, even for the most adept tech-savvy teen. You can accomplish more by avoiding multitasking and focusing.

6. Avoid Semi-Productive Activities. They’re the Worst Distractions.

Your worst distractions and evils to your time management are not the things that are clearly unproductive. Those definitely play a part. But the biggest evil is usually the things that are somewhat productive.

These are usually things that are not important but made to look urgent. Examples include answering emails, people asking you for help in person, or listening to self-help when you should be working.

As you can see, the last one is an example of the most dangerous. It’s things that you can rationalize away as “productive enough” to avoid your most important task.

7. Delegate

Outsources tasks to people who can do it better than you so you can focus on what you do best. It’s one of the best ways to leverage your time and energy.

If you run a business, this is essential to succeeding and scaling.

According to the book Code of the Extraordinary Mind, Richard Branson said that the key to moving from 7 figures to a billion dollar business was hiring the best people to do things better than you can and trusting them with it.

Brian Tracy recommends the rule of 70%: if they can do the job at least 70% as good as you, give them the responsibility.

I recommend finding someone who can do the job even better than you if possible.

8. Use The ABC Method

This is a time management method coined by Brian Tracy. It’s really simple. It’s very similar to the Eisenhower Matrix:

Group your tasks into A, B, and C buckets.

A tasks are the ones with serious consequences if you don’t do it. These are things like a big project or meeting.

B tasks are ones with mild consequences. This is like a mildly important email you need to respond to. Never do these until the A tasks are complete.

C tasks are things that have no consequence but would be nice. This is like having lunch with a friend or personal activities. Don’t do these until A and B are done.

Now, organize everything in your A group into a numbered priority list and start with #1.

If you want to go even further, you can add D and E buckets. D are things that can be delegated to other people. E are things that should not be done at all and eliminated: maybe it’s smoking or a pointless, unproductive activity someone planned for you.

9. Remember The Most Important Part of Prioritization: Higher-Level Understanding

The ABC Method or any other techniques fail if you don’t understand what truly matters to you.

You can get really, really, REALLY productive at business. But you can fail to prioritize family time with your child and regret it because you forgot to value it.

20 years later, your child is off to college and things can’t be changed.

Don’t fail at bigger picture productivity.

Ask yourself what matters most to you. Prioritize these things.

Here are some of the most common values to consider:

  • dating life
  • things you wanted to do before you get old
  • business and wealth
  • career development
  • acquiring necessary skills
  • meeting people or life goals
  • family time
  • having the people who love you love you
  • big accomplishments before you die
  • what you would regret most at your death bed.
  • new adventures
  • new experiences
  • travel

10. Be Willing and Able To Say No

When you’re just starting out in life, you have plenty of time but not many credentials, skills, or opportunities. It pays to say Yes to everything you’re offered to get your foot in the door.

But what gets you in the game won’t take you to the next level. Once you reach a certain level of success, you’re overwhelmed by too many opportunities. Saying Yes too often will exhaust you to death.

But many people don’t make the switch to saying no because they were not given many opportunities starting out and maintain a scarcity mindset.

Musicians like Lady Gaga and supermodels like Cara DeLevigne have done speeches about this. Businesswomen and actress Jessica Alba has talked about this. Ariana Huffington wrote a whole book inspired by this thought, called The Sleep Revolution, after she collapsed from exhaustion from saying Yes to too many things. Oprah Winfrey has mentioned it too in her book, What I Know For Sure.

Learn this lesson ahead of time. Sometimes, it’s ok to say No. No is enough of an answer. It is one of the most powerful productivity tools out there.

Note: This rule may not apply if you’re young. If you’re young and starting out, you may want Yes more often to get more opportunities.

11. Learn To Read Faster

In one of the few appearances Warren Buffett and Bill Gates did together in front of business school students, they were asked what the most superpower they wanted.

Both responded that being able to read faster would have been huge for them. Both of them credit the power of reading the right books and applying the knowledge as massive contributors to their massive wealth. In fact, Warren said that he would have saved ten years of his life if he read faster — that’s how much he reads!

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Readers are leaders. Constantly feed your mind with information from the smartest people ever and keep up to date with trends in your industry.

Even if you don’t think you read a lot, most people do: they have to check email, respond, or write things. By learning how to do something faster that you already do naturally, you are saving a lot of time over your life time.

There are plenty of free Speed Reading courses and videos online as well as paid courses. My lessons on speed reading can drastically help you increase your speed while maintaining retention of information by 250%. They are worth the price of a premium paid course.

Warren Buffett mentioned in a speech he did with Bill Gates that he probably wasted years of his life reading slow.

12. Avoid Useless Meetings

If you’re paying each employee $50 an hour for example and you have 10 people at a meeting that lasts an hour, that meeting just cost $500. Is the time spent at the meeting worth the investment?

Eliminate unnecessary meetings, only invite the people necessary, and make the purpose of the meeting clear from the start.

Meetings generally are a great way for employees to goof off or waste time. They often go longer than they should. Be aware of this. Always start on time even if people haven’t shown up.

You don’t want to build a culture of holding up everyone who showed up on time for the one person who’s late. That will just encourage more people to show up later and later.

I wrote an article with plenty of examples of billionaire productivity secrets as further proof.

13. Achieve Email Time Management Mastery. How To Get To Inbox Zero

Emails take up the bulk of most people’s day and are a major time waster. They’re usually unimportant requests that take up your time and energy. Here are the main things you can do to master email:

Never check email in the mornings or the first thing you do when you wake up.

Email productivity

Many successful people don’t do this. And then they learn the hard way.

It’s a huge mistake because you are failing to start your day with the most important task to you. Instead, you are giving yourself to the mystery of whatever requests come in by email, even if they are distracting or unimportant. You are letting other people’s requests and objectives control your life.

Rather than being a controller of your life, you are playing the reactive victim. That’s not what winners do.

Commit To Checking Your Email Only 2 Times or Less A Day

Emails can function as a huge bottleneck and time suck. What this means is that it’s one of those activities that isn’t scalable if not done right. It requires one person’s concentration and effort, which can only be sped up so much.

Check your email in bulk once or twice a day max to avoid distraction. Email can function like social media or other distracting entertainment where one thing leads you down a rabbit hole of wasted time. You can end up spending a lot longer than expected.

Rather than letting email control you by checking it frequently multiple times a day, limit yourself. Checking it more frequently can act as a start-stop distraction as well.

Tim Ferriss, author of the 4 Hour Work Week, started at multiples times a day, went to 2 times a day, and finally went down to 1 time a week.

Email Anxiety: Thousands of Unread Emails – Understand It’s OK

I heard a story from a friend of Brian Tracy’s. He had thousands of unread emails and took a deep breath…

and deleted them all.

He reasoned that if they were truly important, these people would email again to get in touch. A lot of the busiest CEO’s of the top companies in the world are very hard to reach via email. They are bombarded and can’t answer them all.

Most of the requests are unimportant anyways.

Sure enough, the people who really wanted to get in touch sent another email. The other 90% never emailed again and weren’t important to begin with.

It’s to be expected that this person is busy and may have missed the email. People will understand that you may be a busy person.

I have suffered from similar anxiety from all those unread emails. It came from this perception that most of these emails were critical or important and I had to answer them all. That was often not the case. Most of the emails weren’t that important.

Limit Or Do Not Use Email

John Paul DeJoria, a billionaire, has chosen to not use email because he would be bombarded by emails if he did. It would control his day. Instead, he relies on in-person meetings, snail mail, and telephone. It helps him firmly establish and do what’s most important.

Filter Your Emails with a Gatekeeper

Many successful people set up a system so that only the most important and urgent emails end up in their email inbox. Although they get thousands of emails, only a couple end up in the primary inbox. Usually, a secretary or assistant can really help with this if you explain to them what you want.

The filter strategy

Ask your gatekeeper to use Gmail. Tell him or her to tag emails into only 2 categories while deleting or archiving the rest. These tags are: Important and Urgent! and Important and Not Urgent.

If you can’t afford a gatekeeper right now, you can manually limit emails.

Here are a few tasks you can do:

  • unsubscribe from useless newsletters
  • block spam emails
  • start with a fresh email and only give this address to the most important people.
  • Have a second email inbox for the moderately important.

14. When In Doubt, Throw It Out

Brian Tracy has employed a simple method for organizing and dealing with overwhelm of requests. This method has helped many people stay organized and efficient, even when they doubted it.

“When in doubt, throw it out.”

This applies to everything from emails to phone calls to papers on your desk.

Most people fall deeper and deeper into overwhelm and anxiety because they let the emails and papers pile up. Eventually, they are so overwhelmed or disorganized from all the requests.

Brian reasons that if they really want to reach you, they will send another message. Delete everything and the people that really matter will contact you again with the same message. This turns out to be true.

Note: for emails, this can be a short-term fix because you will continue to get bombarded with spam or unimportant emails. I suggest starting a new email address and only giving away that email to the most essential, important, and useful people and services.

15. Remove Inefficiencies

Find Out and Fix How You Are Wasting Other’s Time

Managing guru Peter Drucker said that we don’t only waste our own time but other people’s time as well. You may have made your own life as efficient as possible but how can you make your interactions with others more efficient? Ask them: how am I wasting your time and how can we be more efficient? Often, they will be happy to tell you and it will be a win-win situation for both of you if you can fix it.

When you meet with someone or ask to meet with someone, be as efficient as you can with what you want to do and get started. A great rule, given to me by Brian Tracy, is this: Say “I have 3 points I have to talk to you about and then I will let you get back to your work.”

Get To The Point

A lot of idle time is wasted because of needless small talk or confusion about the direction. If someone comes to you in your office, for example, you can respond with something like “Thanks for coming by. What can I do for you?” It’s polite and gets straight to the point on what can be done while eliminating room for idle chit chat.

Remove Distractions & Interruptions

Sometimes, you need that zone of focus for an extended period of time with no distractions. Interruptions can cause start-stop behavior, which, as I mentioned earlier, can lead to wasted time.

One great starting point is to set aside 1 hour in the morning and afternoon with a Do Not Disturb sign on your door.

The 3-Point Technique

This 3-point technique is simple but effective: Get to work 1 hour early, work through lunch, and stay 1 hour late. By doing so, you accomplish many things:

  • You start the day and end with very few if any distractions because no one is there
  • You get the most important tasks done
  • You get in the groove and flow of working before and longer than others
  • You get more work done since you’re spending more time
  • Probably the biggest benefit: You avoid the rush hour of traffic and skip out on all the wasted time commuting to work

My Secret Life Hack: Leveraging Fringe Hours

Brian Tracy says an average person can finish a whole college semester’s worth of time by using their drive time to work to learn through audio books. Turn your car into a university on wheels.

I’ve applied this secret to every area of my life where I’m just standing or sitting and waiting. Maximizing these “fringe hours” has helped me get several hours worth of extra reading time in per week, which works especially well since I’m a better listener than reader.

If you’re waiting in line at the store or at a restaurant, shopping for clothes, going for a run, at the gym, or in your car, consider consuming podcasts, audio books, videos, book summaries, and courses that will advance your future. I’ve tested out audio and text book summary apps too. Check out my Blinkist review here.

16. File Away & Organize Useful Information. Consume It When You Can

Brian Tracy is great at this. He files away very useful information in articles, magazines, or web articles. Whenever he has free time (sitting in line, on the bus, waiting, etc.), he consumes this information and gets ahead of his competitors.

17. Reward Yourself

According to numerous studies in the book, The Power of Habit, good and bad habits form through a cycle of triggers and rewards.

Reward yourself each time you do the right thing. Brian Tracy did this with his sales teams. He would place a bowl of jelly beans in front of them and they would be able to eat one each time they made a successful call.

Be creative and see if you can come up with a reward that is healthy as well. Otherwise, it defeats the purpose. Maybe you can buy yourself a self-development book if you spend extra time doing the things you don’t want to.

18. When You’re At Work, Only Do Work

Brian argues that up to 40% of an average person’s 8 hour work day is wasted on unproductive activities, like small talk, bathroom breaks, or going on entertainment sites you shouldn’t be on.

Make sure that when you’re at work, you’re fully engaged as much as you can.

You may need an occasional 5 minute break to rejuvenate, which is fine. Just don’t go overboard with the 17 minutes here and 7 minutes there.

Conclusion

This guide is meant to be a comprehensive how-to. Save this and reference it whenever you need some help.

If it’s too much, I recommend reading a couple sentences every day and using that advice.

If you learn nothing else, remember to do the #1 most important long-term task FIRST.

Now, it’s your turn. Leave a comment with the best tip you learned here and how you are going to implement it. Remember: Action takers get ahead! 

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Nike billionaire phil knight's rule for success

10 Rules For Success I Learned From The Creator of Nike

I’m so excited about this. 

Phil Knight, the founder of Nike, one of the most successful start-up stories of all time, has finally released a book. It’s called Shoe Dog. It’s a memoir and fairly quick read.

Nike has to be one of the most well-known global brands for the last few decades.  Steve Jobs gave a speech in 1997 and talked about how amazing Nike’s brand and marketing is. He marveled at Nike’s marketing strategy to be able to rise above others in a commodity industry. Even to this day, Nike still holds a top spot in the market; that’s very difficult to do.

 

Nike started with a few hundred dollars borrowed to $35 billion in sales a year. This book explains the story. I’ve already read a ton of books by billionaires but this one has become one of my favorites.

Here’s what I learned:

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How do I continue to do something that I started and loved?

How to Deal With Multiple Passions To Find A Job You’re Passionate About (And Not Give Up Along the Process)

Does this sound like you?

Whenever you start to do something in a field (that you love), you feel interested initially and you put in all your effort. But after some time, you lose interest and stop doing it although you still love it. 

How do I continue to do something that I started and loved?

Today, I want to share with you:

  • how to solve the dilemma of “multiple passions” and find your calling.
  • why there’s massive, disproportionate reward with being the best in the world.
  • how to get there without burning out because you can even if you’re passionate about it.

The Dilemma of Multiple Interests and How To Tackle It

Ever since I found about the “Follow Your Passion” movement a few years ago, I struggled because I thought I had multiple interests and believed it was a bad thing. It seemed like successful people only had one interest and focused on that interest for decades until they got rich. I was told that you have to focus on one interest because no one has ever become successful at multiple skills except for once-in-a-millenium freaks like Leonardo DaVinci, Ben Franklin, and Arnold Schwarzenegger.

But it was so hard to restrain myself. I had dozens of interests, like video games, YouTube, manga, anime, personal development, business economics, music, and so on.

Now, there are a couple of TED Talks that argue that people like us have their own label. We are called “multipotentialites” or “polymaths.” They argue we should be proud of who we are and the world needs us.

I respectfully disagree.

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I Am Rich, Successful, And Have Everything But Am Not Happy.

I Am Rich, Successful, And Have Everything But Am Not Happy. Why?

Imagine hitting all your life and financial goals. Sounds great, right?

But many people who get there hit a funk.

Pat Flynn, an online entrepreneur, received this chilling email not long ago. He shared this email in his book Will It Fly? It’s worth sharing if you think money alone is all that matters:

Subject: I make $20,000 per month and I’m not happy.

Hi Pat, I’m sorry to email you like this, but I had no one else to turn to. I feel like I know you because I listen to your voice all day. You’re like a friend, even though we’ve never met. Sorry if that sounds weird.

Anyway, I want to thank you. You don’t know this, but you’ve taught me so much about how to build a successful online business. I currently generate over $20k per month in recurring revenue, but here’s the thing…

I’m unfulfilled. I’m not as happy as I thought I was going to be.

A few years ago, before I started my company, the thought of making this kind of money online was a pipe dream. Now that my “dream” has come true, I realize that I didn’t give my dream much thought at all and there’s much more to life than just making money.

I don’t even know why I’m emailing this to you, Pat. Maybe just to get it off my chest and share it with someone who might understand because you seem to have it all figured out. I don’t know. I just opened my email and started typing, which is funny now that I think about it because I jumped into it without a plan, sort of like how I started my business. Clearly I need to work on that.

Anyway, I don’t expect a reply because I know you’re busy. Thank you Pat, for all you do.

James

This man is not alone. Throughout my hundreds of hours of study of successful people, I’ve found many celebrities and successful entrepreneurs come forward with the same conclusion that wealth and/or fame doesn’t guarantee happiness.

What separates them from the rich and happy people?

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Mindset the New Psychology of Success Book Summary

Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck Book Summary

After decades of research, Stanford psychologist Dr. Carol Dweck found that your beliefs have the ability to affect whether you reach become successful or not. She formed a theory around two core mindsets that categorize the successful from the unsuccessful: the fixed versus growth mindset.

Fixed Mindset Vs. Growth Mindset

What are the differences between a fixed and growth mindset? Let me explain:

What Is A Fixed Mindset? 


Fixed mindset people believe that their skills (intelligence, ability, potential, etc.) are fixed from birth and unchangeable. As you’re going through section, if you realize many of these traits align with how you are, it’s agood test to confirm you have a fixed mindset.

Fixed mindset people have the following characteristics:

  • They hide their deficiencies and will not admit they have them.
  • They don’t enjoy the journey as much as the success at the end.
  • They care more about feeling superior, special, and different from others.
  • They believe their are finished products already rather than works-in-progress.
  • Their self worth and competence is based on their actions and perception by others.
  • They are in school to get good grades — even if it means cheating to do so, not to learn.
  • They put in as little effort as possible because they think smart people don’t need to try hard.
  • After a negative event they caused, they label themselves as something negative. After a positive event they caused, they label themselves as something positive.

They have beliefs and statements like:

  • “If you don’t succeed, never try again.”
  • “Once tried, once failed, never try again.”

Fixed mindset people have thoughts like:

  • “The world is out to get me.”
  • “Nothing good ever happens to me.”
  • “Life handed me a bad life and there’s nothing I can do about it.”

Because they believe their abilities are unchangeable, they evolve behaviors to protect themselves. For example:

  • They will cheat or avoid challenges to hide their deficiencies in skill rather than be okay with it and grow.
  • They avoid opportunities where they can learn and get better if it means exposing their deficiencies.
  • They have a sense of urgency to succeed now because their results measure their worth forever.
  • They will do whatever they can to appear special or different from others.
  • They refuse to try if it means losing because they fear judgement.

After A Failure

Fixed mindset people often have tons of excuses for why they didn’t succeed. They pick excuses that are outside of their control so they can cover up their weaknesses.

After a failure, they may make statements in their head or out loud like:

  • “I’m worthless.”
  • “I’m a loser.”
  • “I suck.”

After a failure, they:

  • Pick a fight.
  • Pout and whine.
  • Sit there and cry.
  • Lock themselves in their room and cry.

They do this even if the failure is not even close to a devastating event. It could be a mid term instead of a final or someone brushing them off instead of an outright rejection.

Any event they cause, good or bad, are labels of themselves. For example, if they win an award, they think, “that means I’m smart.”

Fixed Mindset People Are Normal The Rest Of The Time

Fixed mindset people are not always negative. They can act just like positive growth mindset people most of their lives. But they reveal their differences after they fail.

What is a Growth Mindset?

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A Beginner’s Guide to CrossFit: I Tried It Out For A Year

You know the problem with all the “beginner’s guide to CrossFit” articles on the web? They’re all written by people who never actually experienced Crossfit for an extended period of time.Instead, they’re telling you what it’s like based on a handful of visits, hearsay, their own opinions, interviewing a trainer (or salesman), myths, superstitions, and false assumptions.

It’s been over a year since I started doing CrossFit. During that time, I went on four or five times a week to one of their classes (they call them WODs, work-outs-of-the-day). I want to profile my review of CrossFit so far, and for once, you’re going to hear it from someone who is naturally pretty skeptical and hasn’t “drank the Koolaid.” There are definitely some myths that need to be shattered.

I want to share with you the truth about CrossFit from someone who has actually been through it, show you my results, and give you my review.

What is CrossFit?

CrossFit is a training program that focuses on increasing your general athletic fitness across numerous cross-training areas, including cardiovascular, stamina, strength, flexibility, speed, agility and so on.

It started by focusing on training police and military. Since then, it has branched out to train everyone, including the average middle-aged mother.

In simple terms, it is cross fitness training. Your goal is to become healthy and fit across numerous areas. Think decathlon versus sprinting.

You’re more of a generalist than a specialist. You may not lift the most weight in a specific lift or run the farthest or fastest in another. But on average across all these metrics, you score higher than most others. And technically, you can be a specialist at CrossFit by competing in the Crossfit Games, which throws a wide variety of tests each year to test you in all these areas.

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