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If you could only read 10 books to live the wisest life, what would they be?

If You Could Only Read 10 Books For The Rest Of Your Life, Read These. Here’s Why

If you could only read 10 books for the rest of your life, what would they be?

Today, I took a stab at answering this tough question. I thought it’s a great one because the limitation it places on you really forces you to cut the fat.

Obviously, this list will differ if your goals are different. I tried to answer the question by targeting books that will make you wiser, happier, richer, healthier, and more fulfilled when you die. Therefore, these books are not the best for solving niche goals, like becoming a top athlete, famous musician, or self-actualized individual.

As far as why you should listen to me, I’ve gone through hundreds of books and have a much more thorough knowledge of the self-help book universe than 99% of people alive.

There were plenty of books I wanted to add to this list that unfortunately didn’t make the cut. But if you’re strapped for time, this list will do you good. Click play on the player below to listen to my podcast episode and which books I chose:

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Rich Froning Mental Toughness

How To Become Mentally Strong: Advice From The World’s Best

A year ago, I stumbled on an article on how to be mentally strong that got a ton of comments and shares. It confused me. Why do all these people care about this?

I didn’t care about mental toughness. I wanted money and happiness. And I didn’t see how mental toughness would help me with that unless I wanted to change my goals to becoming a Navy SEAL. But everything’s changed since then.

Now, I understand how important mental toughness is to your peak performance.

Today, I’m going to share with you everything you need to know on a critical skill you may be overlooking. I’ll share with you why mental toughness matters and how to improve it. And if you’re wondering why you should trust me, it’s because all my advice comes from people you can trust: the world’s top performers.

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What is Mental Toughness?

Mental toughness is the strength of mind to keep pushing through when your body and other psychological factors tells you to quit.

The scientific definition is:

“Mental toughness is defined as an unshakeable perseverance and conviction towards some goal despite pressure or adversity.”

Based on a study of ten international performers, classified mental toughness as something that can be measured by the following dimensions:

  • Focus
  • Self-belief
  • Pain and Hardships
  • Desire and Motivation
  • Dealing with Pressure and Anxiety

Here are some examples of mental toughness in action:

When you are broke and homeless, it feels like there is no hope, especially when you have tried hard for years to improve your situation and failed. This was Sylvester Stallone’s situation before he made it as an actor. There was significant psychological pressure telling him to give up, but he didn’t.

Another example would be when you’re competing at the Olympics. A slight difference of who can push further a bit further can decide who takes the Gold or Silver medal. At a crucial point like this, you have physical factors (your body screaming at you to quit) and mental factors (screaming crowds distracting you and your body screaming at you through your nerves) that are competing against your mental strength.

Or let’s say your parents and siblings all died from illnesses or unexpected accidents. You need to be strong to stay positive and keep moving on.

Sylvester Stallone defines it the best. Here’s a clip from the film “Rocky Balboa:

This video made an impression on my beyond anything else. I almost cried after seeing it for the first time. This was because I was really in a bad place at the time in almost every area of my life, and it was like he was speaking right to me.

It explains mental toughness fairly well and gives a great tip on improving it. It’s not about how great you are, it’s about how many times you can get back up after life beats you down. 

Why Mental Toughness Matters 

We all know that muscles are built on the last couple reps when it’s painful and you want to quit. But most people quit far sooner than they want to because they can’t withstand the pain.

Imagine being able to push a little bit farther each time when you’re at the gym and on the last rep. Imagine being able to work harder than your coworkers and get more done. Imagine having that extra push in that make-or-break moment that could define your future and crown you as a champion.

What would that mean to you? How much more money would you make? How much longer would you live? How much better would you look?

Mental toughness lets you down that. It gives you the self-discipline to keep pushing when you want to quit.

As I hinted, it’s incredibly important in the realms of sports and other competition, when you need to push to the next level when your body wants to be lazy or tells you to quit. But don’t just take my word for it.

Here’s what some top athletes have to say about it:

Arnold Schwarzenegger

Arnold needs no introduction. But here’s a quick bio anyways: He won Mr. Olympia seven times. He went onto become a real estate millionaire. Then, he became the highest paid actor in the world and governor of California.

Arnold has stated in interviews that there will always be people in competitions who have just as good a body as you. What puts you over the top is your mind.

Michael Jordan: Mental Toughness Matters More Than Genetic Talent

Michael is widely regarded as the best basketball player of all time. According to the book Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck, Michael said:

“The mental toughness and the heart are a lot stronger than some of the physical advantages you might have. I’ve always said that and I’ve always believed that.”

Mia Hamm

She is widely regarded as the best female soccer player to play the game. She is often asked, “What the most important thing for a soccer player to have? Mia always responds with no hesitation, “mental toughness.” She went on to say:

“It is one of the most difficult aspects of soccer and the one I struggle with every game and every practice.”

Rich Froning (from his book First: What It Takes To Win )

Who is Rich? He is widely regarded as the best Crossfitter of all time in the decade or so of the sport’s existence. He won back-to-back three years in a row and came in 2nd place the first time he competed, a feat no one has come close to. He’s also won numerous times with his team, Crossfit Mayhem, for the Team division.

Rich Froning Mental Toughness
Rich Froning, Jr. has over 1 million followers on Instagram and is considered one of the top Crossfit athletes of all time.

According to his book First: What It  Takes To Win, mental toughness is a key to success in Crossfit because it helps you push farther. He says roughly 80% of Crossfit success is mental, and only 20% is physical. When you think about it, it makes sense. A large part of any physical activity is about mentally tolerating pain in your brain; it’s internal, not external. 

Rich has trained a lot of different people. He found the difference between the people who succeed and those who give upon the sport doesn’t have to do with genetic talent. It’s about their mental strength. 

Here’s what science has to say about it:

Being Mentally Strong Improves Physical Endurance

This seems like common sense, but it’s important to verify any assumption with rigorous science. A 2005 study by Lee found a significant correlation between mental strength and endurance.

It May Improve Mental Health

A 2016 study by Gucciardi, Hanton, and Fleming found that mental toughness may be a positive indicator of mental health.

How to Improve Mental Toughness

We will start with what science has to say about improving your mental toughness, and then go to what the world’s best have to give as advice.

What Science Has To Say

According to the books The Happiness Advantage by Shawn Achor and Social by Matthew Lieberman, studies show that having strong friendships increases your resilience to negative events.

When you think about it, it makes perfect sense. When you lose your job or have an unexpected illness, your friends are a great support network to catch you, keep you going, and get you back on your feet.

A 2007 study by Jones examined eight athletes who were world champions or Olympic medalists and found that there were four dimensions that made up mental toughness:

  1. attitude and mindset
  2. training
  3. competition
  4. post-competition

These could be areas worth looking to improve.

A similar study was done on 33 elite athletes and coaches, including 25 who were Olympic athletes or world champions. They found twelve dimensions: elf-efficacy, potential, mental self concept, task familiarity, value, personal bests, goal commitment, perseverance, task focus, positivity, stress minimization, and positive comparisons.

Dr. Rob Bell is a sports psychologist and has worked with professional athletes, like PGA golfers, to improve their mental toughness. I couldn’t help but be a little skeptical about this guy because he didn’t mention any results of his clients; maybe he’s just a good salesman. Having said that, he does have a scientific background and he does mention some really good stories from top athletes in this video guide on mental toughness:

In the video, he lays out an acronym for improving mental toughness: No Fear. It stands for:

Never Give Up

Obstacles Into Opportunities

Focus

rE-focus (refocus when you lose track)

Attitude (e.g. being excited rather than nervous)

Respond, don’t react

Rich Froning

According to his book:

If he had to answer the question, he thinks it comes down to your upbringing and practicing pushing your comfort zone. There have been moments during the Crossfit Games where he thought, “I don’t feel like doing this. I want to quit. Why am I doing it?”

And that’s when his upbringing kicked in. His parents made him do a lot of chores, including meaningless tasks like pulling nails off a board, to instill in him a strong work ethic. His work ethic kicked in automatically when he wanted to give up.

As far as practicing pushing your comfort zone, make sure you remember that you can’t rely on your genetic gifts. He has observed many successful athletes rely on their talents to get them through high school. But when they hit college, they fail because they meet people who have the same genetic skill and highly honed high mental toughness from practice.

Therefore, always push yourself farther than you can go — even when you can get away with not doing so. Otherwise, it might bite you in the butt later in life. 

Rich Froning’s Secrets to Mental Toughness: Practice, Have A Higher Purpose, and Have Fun

According to Rich’s video:

The elite Crossfitter’s ability to dig deep and push through comes from genes and practice. So don’t make the excuse that you just don’t have the genetics. For Rich, he uses a higher purpose (rather than his own selfish reasons) to push through when he wants to give up. His higher purpose is promoting his faith, Christianity.

He also said that not putting too much pressure in yourself and finding a way to have fun also helps push through.

Advice from Navy Seal Commander Mark Divine

Mark Divine is the founder of SealFit and a retired Navy Seal commander. He had trained thousands of Navy SEAL 20x their performance. See the video below for a quick tip:

Too long? Didn’t have time to watch the whole thing? Here’s the summary:

  • The body is an amazing thing. You can actually get stronger mentally, physically, and emotionally over time.
  • You can do a lot more than you think you can before you get exhausted.

Mark gives the example of going through the SEAL’s “hell week.” It’s a week of non-stop training with no sleep and considered the hardest military training for any special ops. Half way through the week, half the people had given up. But mark felt better in every way; he felt more alert and he felt like his muscles were growing.

Ramit Sethi, the entrepreneur interviewing him, responds by saying how one time, he was doing a workout and thought he couldn’t finish it because it was too heavy. His trainer put on more weight and he ended up finishing. In that moment, he realized he could do much more than he thought he could.

Now, did Mark actually get more alert and muscular in just half a week of training with no sleep? Probably not. I have studied the science of sleep and muscle recovery, and experiments show the opposite. Your focus drops when you need more sleep. And you don’t gain muscle that fast even if you get enough protein and rest.

But that’s not the point. Even Mark admits it was probably his mind playing tricks on him. The point is that you can push much farther than your body tells you it can. 

In the book Willpower Instinct, the author cites a study that discovered that your brain sends signals of exhaustion far before your body actually gets exhausted as a fail-safe. Now, it’s there for a reason: to act as a prevention tool for complete exhaustion and danger.

However, your body doesn’t know it lives in the modern world. It’s still wired for Savannah times where there were real physical threats. Nowadays, there are safe environments to protect you from any downsides if you get exhausted and the benefits of pushing past exhaustion (in competition or to build muscle) are huge.

Mark has a lot more free advice you can find online. He’s done many hour-long interviews for different influencers on YouTube and for podcasts. You can click here to get access to a ton of them.

Also, Ramit Sethi partnered with Mark to create a 5-day Mock Hell Week course, which you can get by clicking here.

 

What I Learned From the Book, “The Ultimate Guide to Mental Toughness”

I read a great book on the subject called Ultimate Guide to Mental Toughness: How to Raise Your Motivation, Focus and Confidence Like Pushing a Button by Daniel Teitelbaum. Daniel used to work as a salesman. He used Napoleon Hill’s visualization techniques to become one of the top salesman for his company. Then, he transitioned to coaching everyone from Olympians to office workers to improve their performance, confidence, motivation, and wealth through live workshops.

He reveals his secrets in this book and expands upon Hill’s techniques with his own improved versions. I was recommended the book by a friend, and at first, I was skeptical. But once I finished it, I was much more convinced because some of the techniques are backed up by experiments.

The main thing I loved about the book were all the techniques around using classical conditioning. This is a classic, psychological discovery. Psychologists found that a dog would drool after a bell sound after sounding the bell before feeding the dog numerous times. Eventually, the dog would drool even if no food was given after the bell sounded. Later on, they found that they could use anything to do this; it didn’t have to be a bell.

Using classical conditioning, Dan’s techniques tied various triggers to ordinary events to get you motivated to accomplish your goals whenever you wanted. These included:

  • Listing out and identifying the goals that give you the biggest emotions.
  • Visualizing in detail the day before you achieve your goal.
  • Visualizing in detail 15 minutes before you achieve your goal.
  • Visualizing in detail the day after you achieve your goal.
  • Visualizing in detail the moment you achieved your goals (who was there, what’s happening around you, how you feel, what you’re holding and wearing, etc.).
  • Screaming a sentence that summarizes you achieving your biggest goal as load as you can fifteen times in a row.
  • Beating your chest with your hand while doing the visualization exercise. Then, slowly condensing the movement so that you can get the same emotional trigger by just tapping your finger or toe.
  • Playing a song that really energizes you while you’re visualizing so that you can eventually play the song to trigger the emotions without having to do the visualization exercise.

You don’t have to do all of these techniques. He has so many for different situations and personalities. And a number of these are not science-backed. Having said that, if all else fails, this is something you can test. It couldn’t hurt.

How To Summon Any Emotion or State You Want Instantly

What’s interesting is that I read the book The Art of Learning, and the author, Josh Waitzkin, stumbled across a very similar triggering method on his own. For some context, Josh was a chess prodigy who became a teen world champion and basis for one of the most famous chess movies, Searching for Bobby Fischer. He went on to become the world champion of the competitive martial arts, Tai Chi Chuan Push Hands, all by his early thirties.

Josh uses a similar “condensing” technique for triggering other emotions, like calmness. Interestingly enough, it doesn’t have to be for energizing emotions, like Dan has done. In his book he gives a great example.

A man always gets too nervous before presentations at works and blows it. He comes to Josh for help. Josh tells him to identify the moment when he is most calm. It was playing ball with his son.

He then asked him to conduct an hour-long routine each time before he played ball with his son. It happened to a number of random things, like stretching, listening to music, and washing the dishes. Gradually and slowly, Josh told him to condense the routine so it got shorter and shorter.

Eventually, the routine was less than five minutes. Then, Josh told him to perform this routine before the presentation, and he felt calm. Was it magic? No. He had simply conditioned a set of random activities to the feeling of calmness, so he could summon it on command.

If you’re interested, click here to buy or learn more about the book The Ultimate Guide to Mental Toughness on Amazon. I’ll get a small commission if you buy through my link at not extra cost to you.

Tim Ferriss’s Advice

Tim Ferriss is an entrepreneur and host of a self help podcast with over 100 million downloads titled The Tim Ferriss Show. Thanks to his hard work, large blog, and network as a Silicon Valley tech investor, he has been able to interview many of the world’s top athletes and game changers. He’s learned a lot about mental toughness from them:

Tim Ferriss’s article on mental toughness, based on his interviews of top performers.

Warren Buffett and Charlie Munger

I have been a super fan of both of these billionaires for a few years now. I have consumed almost everything out there about them. One thing most people don’t know about them is that they’ve been through tough times as well and they keep going.

Charlie saw his own child get ill and pass away. Warren has lost loved ones and has been hurt by people he’s loved.

But Charlie describes it best in the document Becoming Warren Buffett. He said, “Warren soldiers on.” They keep pushing forward, like a soldier.

Now, no need to pity them, as they’ve both generally had incredibly awesome lives for the most part. But if you have want to change your negative attitude and outlook, there’s nowhere better than the book Poor Charlie’s Almanack. 

Charlie Munger’s philosophy on dealing with life, which you can find in that book and in free interviews online, is the best I’ve come across in dealing with life. Hundreds of thousands of Tim Ferriss fans love to harp on his teachings of stoicism (If you’re not familiar, I’d describe it as minimalism for happiness). But Charlie’s stuff is better.

He explains in such logical terms why you should avoid all self-pity and jealousy because it only hurts yourself and prevents you from progressing. He talks about how to effectively deal with the dread of aging and dying. And he talks about why and how you should come to accept and move on from unexpected bad events that life hands you — and to even do it in a positive way.

One of Charlie’s biggest inspirations is Ben Franklin, so I suggest reading Ben’s autobiography too if you want to dive even deeper.

Did I miss any valuable advice from a top athlete or scientist? Let me know in the comments below. I’d be eager to learn more.

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Are your 20s really the best time of your life?

Myth Debunked: Are your twenties really the best years of your life?

For the last few years of my life, I was constantly in a state of frustration and haste. Why? Because I thought I had wasted the best years of my life.

I was told by media, Hollywood, peers, and adults that your twenties are the best years of your life. I even asked one of my friends to confirm if it was true, “Once I get a job, is it all downhill from here?”

“Yes, it is,” he replied. He had bought into the idea as well.

Despite all my hurried attempts to seize that time, it just wasn’t happening. I didn’t have the money, status, or extroversion to party it up with beautiful supermodels.

And then, something happened. I realized the whole thing was a lie.

Are your twenties really the best years of your life?

No matter what age you are in life, you may have had this idea pop-up. Death is coming. It’s over from here. It’s only going to get worse. Even being the positive self-help enthusiast I am, I couldn’t help but to buy into this and fall into a quarter-life crisis. Where was the proof this wasn’t true?

Then, I stumbled into this beautiful mid-life crisis story by Alice Schroeder, the author of Warren Buffett’s biography The Snowball. This is from her Reddit Ask Me Anything:

warren buffett mid life crisis story

Your twenties aren’t the end. They’re just the beginning. But as Alice mentioned, it’s worth it if you can invest in your experiences so that they compound into an avalanche of unexpected positive events later on in life.

In this podcast episode, I will share with you:

  • studies from the science of happiness on what really matters.
  • new evolutionary science on how your biological clock relates to this.
  • experiences and shocking lessons learned from men who are highly successful with women (some of who started as losers).

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Show Notes: Other Helpful Resources

Check out the previous podcast episode I did on being rich but happy. There are some great resources in the Show Notes, especially Dan Bilzerian’s interview, which are relevant to this discussion.

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Billionaire Oprah Winfrey on Success Habits, Principles and Peak Performance

17 Success Tips from Billionaire Oprah Winfrey on Principles, Mindset, & Career

Oprah Winfrey is one of my favorite billionaires because she’s unique. Unlike the others, she overcame two discriminating obstacles (being black and female) to become a billionaire in an industry where billionaires are rare: entertainment. On top of that, she had a tough early life of sexual and physical abuse, and she miscarried a child as a teenager.

If that’s not enough, she was born in mediocre situations. She was conceived after a single sexual encounter under a tree. Her dad left her mom immediately after. It just goes to show you that anyone has the potential to become someone amazing.

And she did it, while staying happy and kind (something you can’t say for many rich people).

After spending a lot of time studying her (reading her book What I Know For Sure, watching her Stanford Q&A, listening to an NPR special on her, etc.), I wanted to share with you some of her secrets to success. Some will be applicable only to the entertainment industry; others will be helpful universally in becoming wealthy and successful.

If you prefer listening to reading, you can click play on the player (or Subscribe on iTunes) below to listen to the podcast version of this article:

Billionaire Oprah Winfrey on Success Habits, Principles and Peak Performance
Oprah Winfrey while she was still running her talk show. She paused to take this picture at a hotel. Image Credit: Flickr

1. Be Enthusiastic

Oprah was always bursting with energy and emotion. She talked about topics she was deeply interested in, like female dating. It made her magnetic. When she announced the next book in her book club, she said it like she was announcing the most important message in the world. This passion translated to her viewers.

2. Keep Your Blinders On And Run Your Own Race

There will always be copycats, so be okay with it. During her long TV host career, Oprah told her everyone on her to keep your blinds on and run your own race. What she meant was to focus on themselves and not on what any other talk show host was doing.

She also said, “You can’t win the race by looking over your shoulder.” And she was right. Over two hundred talk shows came and went during Oprah’s time as a host.

None of her team ever went out to do any research on what other hosts were doing and therefore, they never copied anyone else. When Oprah started getting successful, big TV executives tried to copy her format by hiring black, female hosts, but it didn’t work. They were searching for a formula they could replicate, but couldn’t find it.

3. There Are Only Two Emotions: Love And Fear

You can only experience love or fear, but not both at once. This was a mantra that Oprah internalized in her team. It helped out when they went to Georgia after the biggest riot and lynching of the country back in the 80’s to interview people.

Racism was rampant and it was a dangerous time. The locals sent Oprah’s team death threats to leave but the they were not scared because they followed Oprah’s mantra to only live by love.

4. Be Fearless of What You Want To Do and Take the Leap

Take risks. Discover what you want to do with your life over time and commit to it. For decades, the content of Oprah’s show was trashy because they featured a lot of controversial, scandalous topics (think Jerry Springer). But it was the #1 show in the world and had viewership 12 to 13 million a day.

She had spent years finding her “message and mission” and finally decided it was to raise the consciousness of others. When she told her team she wanted to change the show to be a force for good, they didn’t want to because they were scared it would ruin their success. But she persisted and they did. Oprah’s viewership initially dropped to 9 million for a while, but it slowly climbed back up as they tested new ways to add positivity into what they did.

After a lot of thinking, she also decided she wanted to launch a book club on her show, which was dangerous, because people were reading less and less. It seemed like a dying market. Her book club eventually became the largest in the world and was responsible for selling over 100 million books.

Oprah Never Feared Losing Her Following

Oprah never feared losing her followers by trying something different on her show. This is because from the beginning, her audience was “following her as a person and her instincts to discover what was true and share that.” And as long as she kept being true to herself, at least one person out there would be interested in what she had to say.

4. Think of the Person on the Other End and What They Want (to a Specific Degree)

Oprah had a very specific persona she wanted to deliver her content too (it’s funny, Ellen said a similar thing in her books). She called the persona Suzy. The persona was a middle-aged housewife, which was the demographic of most of her viewers. She always asked whether Suzy would like something before she did it on her show.

Oprah also said that she never cared about her guests’ personal and dating lives. She thought it was private to them. But she knew her audience did so she made sure to ask questions about it to her celebrity guests. I found this a little hypocritical, but I guess this was at a time when it wasn’t against her values to invade privacy for her guests and to make a living.

Later on, when she started her book club, she found out that roughly 10% of her audience would always respond and buy the book she recommended every time. Therefore, 1 million people would buy her books each time. So she always asked whether or not the book she chose would be interesting to at least 1 million people before she recommended it on her show.

5. Always Have A Good Reason For Your Actions

Oprah always told her team to ask what the intention of each of their plans, goals, and tasks were. This helped eliminate a lot of projects put forth that would not have aligned or advanced the values they stood for.

Specifically, she said she only did things that aligned with her intention or it wouldn’t work. When the show was given an excess of cars to give away, Oprah made them ask why. She wouldn’t just let them give away cars.

It had to align with their intention and values for the show. Oprah only allowed it to happen if she chose people who really needed cars because her intention behind the show was around helping others who needed it. To this day, Oprah’s retirement finale episode where she gives away the cars is still parodied and mentioned in popular culture.

6. The Packaging Is Just As Important As the Gift

On the day of the car giveaway, Oprah made them redo everything because the bow was too small. It only covered a portion of the car but she wanted it to wrap around the entire car. This trivial thing seemed to be peculiar to me.

But when I thought about it, I considered if it may be a hidden secret to Oprah’s success. Delivery, service, and packaging are really important in giving gifts and the entertainment industry. Oprah’s delivery and setup of the car giveaway was just as important for the TV audience as the car itself.

7. Don’t Let False Words From Others Affect You. Keep Calm and Check The Truth

At one point during the show, cattlemen sued Oprah for millions of dollars because they claimed she used her massive audience to depress beef sales by talking badly about beef. They called her a manipulator.

Oprah kept calm, assessed the situation, knew she did not do it to manipulate or depress sales, and realized what was actually true. She was ultimately found not guilty.

8. Be Patient And Use Progressive Trial and Error To Find Your Purpose

It took Oprah decades to finally figure out the message and purpose of her show. Towards the end, she made her final tweak. She changed her show slogan from “Change Your Life” to “Live Your Best Life” because she wanted to make it less about spirituality and rapid change.

9. Start Scrappy

When Oprah began her talk show career, her team consisted of three other female producers sitting in a tiny room. It was so informal that they borrowed jewelry from each other and passed around notes.

10. Work Hard

This may generic advice but true. Since the beginning, Oprah and her team made the show their entire life. Often, it was all they did from when they got up to when they went to bed.

11. Be Strategic

Oprah decided on Chicago as her ideal city to make her big break by a process of elimination. D.C. was too competitive and every radio station was already occupied by a black host. She was already living in and ready to move on from Baltimore.

New York was too busy and movement-centric; she needed one place to settle down. Therefore, she made Chicago her goal for many years and strived to move towards that goal.

12. Stand Out

Obviously, that’s easier said than done. I can only offer how Oprah did it in her time. Maybe you can use it as inspiration. For her, she was the first TV show host to be vulnerable and share personal feelings. More importantly, she was the first to be her genuine self rather than a TV persona.  

In her first ever TV episode, she admitted that she was so nervous that there were hives all over her. This was unheard of because at the time, no one revealed anything personal on television, let alone their insecurities.

Many people have remarked that Oprah was genuinely herself on and off the show. She calls it one of her greatest talents. This unique ability propelled her to success in a competitive television industry. You may not have the same talent, but it’s a sign how important identifying your strengths are and a clue to what might be your strength.

How do you stand out from the crowd?

13. Do Something That Will Never Happen Again & Celebrate It

Oprah launched a TV show in an era where there were only a dozen TV channels out there, which meant you could capture up to 13 million women daily with her show if you’re good. This would never happen again as hundreds of TV channels have now popped up and tens of thousands of entertainment channels on the Internet.

14. Stand Out From The Crowd And Be Different

On a similar note, Oprah did things very differently from other hosts when she started. As mentioned, she revealed insecurities and showed her flaws, which was unheard of for TV hosts. She also pioneered something new on television by bringing on a lot of the most controversial guests, people who were openly racist, gay, or cheated on their wife.

Of course, this success principle is applicable to many areas of life. In business and career, it’s a competitive world. Being different from everyone else (who all look the same to the consumer or employer) can give you the advantage to get ahead.

15. Make The Experience Personal

The technical aspects of the show were built so that the viewer felt like she was sitting right next to Oprah. Most other talk shows set up their microphones so that the sounds felt like you were in a big room. But the microphones for Oprah’s show were hidden everywhere close to her, like inside couches, so that it felt like you conversing with Oprah.

I’m not sure if this tip is actually going to work for you. Maybe the core principle behind this tip is to “stand out.” Maybe this different way of wiring microphones only worked because it was different from everyone else.

16. Make Your Show A Scheduled Habit — At The Same Time Every Day

When she retired, Oprah thought her twenty million loyal fans would transfer over to her TV network but only a small fraction did. It turns out that they were not as loyal as she thought. She realized that it was the habit of watching her everyday at 4pm that she had programmed in them. And she lost that 4pm slot when she retired.

17. Be Blind To Race

Oprah is truly a one-of-a-kind billionaire. She said in her Stanford Q&A that she still finds herself in rooms of rich, white men. She’s often the only black female. But she said she never got to where she is by looking at someone and seeing their color. 

Conclusion

Like I said, I am blown away by Oprah’s story. I marvel at how she has overcome so many stereotype barriers to achieve her success in the form of wealth and impact.

Her story is also one of alignment. Everything worked together, and I noted how she was in the right place at the right time. She worked really hard, but also she had genetic talents that were useful in the era she was born. You always have to give credit to luck, no one is truly 100% self-made.

Small things she has said, like how she doesn’t look at someone by their race, has helped me through tough times and changed how I behave.

I hope you learned something from her as well. If there’s something impactful she said that I missed, let me know in the comments. I’d love to know.

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How Billionaires Use Morning Rituals To Get More Done

How Billionaires Create Rituals To Get More Done

 

Billionaires are a rare breed. They are in the top 1% of the 1% of the 1%. They’re world-class at making money and all the skills that come with that.

What if we could really break down their rituals? What if we could find patterns we can follow ourselves? That’s what I intend to do. Unlike other self improvement articles out there, I have spent a good portion of my life actually studying billionaires — not just for a few minutes to churn out an article.

You will learn:

  • Daily rituals of billionaires.
  • Morning rituals of billionaires.
  • Productivity patterns of billionaires.
  • The differences between billionaires.
  • Why you shouldn’t always follow what a billionaire does.
  • Much more.

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