How Shy Introverts Can Succeed in Social Settings, Make Friends, Get Dates & Further Their Career

How Introverts Can Get Over Shyness: Secrets to Quiet People Psychology and Success in Life

“Solitude matters, and for some people, it’s the air they breathe”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking

There are just as many shy introverts as outgoing extroverts out there. So why does it seem like we’re being left out? Why does it feel like we’re not getting as far ahead? Why do we feel frustrated as if we should speak more or be more like the extroverts?

It’s clear that Western society honors the man who pushes his way to the front. But what about the rest of us? Even people who claim to be “extroverted introverts” can still feel like they weren’t dealt the best hand in life.

In this podcast episode, I’m going to share with you what I learned about succeeding as a shy introvert from:

  • reading all the top books on introversion including Quiet: The Power of Introversion and Introversion Power
  • going through scientific studies comparing introverts to extroverts
  • applying the tips I learned in the books and online in real life to see if it works (hint: it sometimes doesn’t)
  • sharing strategies I’ve come up with on my own when theories consistently didn’t work in the real world

You’ll also learn why so many Asian Americans are introverts (spoilers: it’s a mix of culture, upbringing, and who they grow up with).


Question of the day: What’s the #1 action step you learned from the podcast that you will apply to your own life immediately? Leave a comment and let me know.

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12 Time Management Secrets From Billionaires (Some Will Shock You)

There are around 2,000 billionaires in the world.

And by definition, they’re some of the best at time management. They’re bombarded with thousands of emails. They have a thousand things they could do: meet with an employee, schedule a meeting, find a new marketing strategy, work on a product design, etc.

How do they choose what’s most important and still effectively build their wealth to $10,000 per day or more?

It’s not a “myth” that people succeed because they’re more productive.

  • The female billionaire Sheryl Sandberg has stated in her books that she made sure to leave work at 5:30 every day because her children were a priority.
  • Richard Branson has over 400 companies to run but he still has time to kite-surf because he puts his fitness as a priority.
  • President Bush has a million things to do: foreign leaders to call, CIA briefings to read, voters to please, and so on. Yet he was able to still read 95 books in a year: more than most people ever read.
  • Doug Conant, CEO of Campbell Soup, sent 20 handwritten thank you notes a day while running a Fortune 500 company.

I stumbled across a book called 15 Secrets Successful People Know About Time Management: The Productivity Habits of 7 Billionaires, 13 Olympic Athletes, 29 Straight-A Students, and 239 Entrepreneurs.

It has the longest title I’ve seen in a while. And I think it’ll help you uncover some secrets of time management.

Here are the top tips on billionaire productivity tips I know (which I learned from this book and all the other videos and podcasts I consumed):

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How To Be Invaluable in the Modern World

Linchpin by Seth Godin Book Summary & Review: How To Be Invaluable in the Modern World

Do you want to know how to stay successful in a competitive world? I’ve got just the book. I’ve heard a lot about this book from people in the business and self-help field.

It was recommended by people like Alex Ikonn, who makes 7 figures a year through his businesses. And he’s said that’s net profit after you pay for expenses, employees, and everything.

It’s definitely worth taking a look at, right?

By the way, be careful when people talk about 7 figure businesses. They may make 7 figures in sales, but might only make as little as $30,000 after they’ve paid for everything.

I want to share with you all the best insights I picked up from the book. Throughout this book summary, I will share advice from successful people and any thoughts I have to help you. I will especially look to warn you if he makes a point that isn’t well supported or cited.

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20 Billionaires That Post on Social Media or the Internet That You Can Learn From

Believe it or not, you can get fairly frequent advice from billionaires online.

When you have over a thousand billionaires in existence, it’s not surprise that at least few are fairly plugged into the online world.And I highly recommend getting advice straight from the top rather than someone who is moderately good at a skill. And who better to turn to than billionaires?

When I have some free time, I always like to check up on these people and the new advice they’re putting out. Here are a list of billionaires that put out at least semi-frequent advice online.

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An Honest 5 Minute Journal Review: The Truth About Journaling & Morning Routines

A new fad has been sweeping through the personal development movement.

Journaling. But is it just a useless fad seen as the next “magic pill” to success or is it legit?

There are even popular journals you can buy include the Five-Minute Journal, Mastery Journal, Freedom Journal, Morning Pages, and Miracle Morning (though this is more of a routine) as made famous by Alex and Mimi Ikonn, John Lee Dumas, Tim Ferriss, and Hal Elrod.

But there’s a huge problem with the current state of daily journals out in the market.

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How To Deal With Information Overload

How To Deal With Information Overload: 7 Innovative Strategies

Oh, the frustration and stress that comes with information overwhelm.

You feel like there’s so much to consume yet so little time.

How do you even begin to deal with all the articles, videos, books, and information out there?

I have felt this way many times before and it sucks. I feel overwhelmed because there is simply too much out there. I feel like I am missing out or not doing what I could be doing. I end up giving up because I can’t get to it all.

Today, I want to share with you some innovative strategies to deal with information overload.

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How To Make Friends Without Having To Influence Them

How To Make Friends Without Having To Influence Them

How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie is one of the only books that exist on how to make friends. And it’s wildly successful, selling millions of copies.

But after reading the book and the reviews, I realized there were critical components on how to make friends that were missing. People complained about the following in the book:

  • Short-term manipulative tactics are used that can destroy your long term success with making friends.
  • Some of the tips are focused on ways of getting people to like you for business and networking, which is different from making friends because you’re encouraged to be someone other than your true self.
  • The tips to smile more, be nice, and be interested fail to account for the female gender. When women do this, it can be misinterpreted as a sexual advance and encourage harassment.
  • Pretending to be interested in something you’re not and being too agreeable can cause you to end up with friends you don’t really want and you don’t actually connect with because you’re lying about your interests, overlooking their glaring faults, or befriending selfish people who drain your energy.
  • A lot of the advice is generic or repetitive and focused on common sense tactics to be a decent, average person.

I want to address these issues and give some advice on how to actually make friends without having to put on a fake persona or manipulate. My advice is based on what I have learned from my own experiments and/or asking people who seem to naturally good at making a lot of high quality friends.

I think most people are unaware of all the great benefits of creating an established network of healthy, supporting friends. Many are also unaware that social skills are an acquired skill that almost everyone can develop with practice.

This topic means a lot for me because I struggled immensely to make friends growing up. I even sat alone at the cafeteria often in school.

I believe you can make quality friends that have similar values and hobbies — who will support you — who you will be a lot of fun to hang around even if you’re starting from scratch. It won’t be easy but you can do it. And I’m going to teach you how to do it without having to manipulate, lie, or influence others.

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what is personal development?

Personal Development Made Simple: A Beginner’s Guide

Do you know who Tony Robbins is?

He went from working as a janitor to the world’s most well known personal development speaker with a net worth of $480 million

Similarly, Brian Tracy went from working dead-end jobs (like dishwasher) as a high school dropout to a multi-millionaire salesman.

Here’s one more: W. Clement Stone took the book Think and Grow Rich and followed it to a tee. He turned $100 into millions in the insurance business. 

This was all thanks to personal development.

Now, there is a lot of fluff and bad advice out there on personal development and I want to set things straight. You may be (rightfully) skeptical of personal development. But real personal development, at its core, can help you. And I will prove it.

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How To Develop Persistence: Tactics To Never Give Up

How To Develop Persistence: Tactics To Never Give Up

Never give up. Today is hard, tomorrow will be worse, but the day after tomorrow will be sunshine. -Jack Ma, founder of Alibaba

If you’ve been studying successful people for any decent length of time, you know how important never giving up is. Life is long and you never know what may turn in your favor over that time. But how do you develop persistence when you fail at staying consistent at most things in life?

What if you fail at not giving up when it comes to simple things, like maintaining a healthy diet, avoiding fast food, and always exercising?

Well, I used to be a quitter. But now I have maintained a very consistent exercise routine, meditation routine, and I have uploaded 1,000 YouTube videos on my channel without quitting. I’ll explain how you can do the same with science.

Listen now:

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This scene in a Slyvestor Stallone film really spoke to me when I was going through a tough time:

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Question of the day: What’s the #1 lesson you learned from this podcast episode? 

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How Dancing Taught Me How To Take The Lead In A Relationship As A Man

12 Ways Partner Dancing Taught Me How To Take The Lead In Relationships And Be A Man

I started going to drop-in dance classes to meet people and improve on the masculine traits I was lacking. I heard it was a good way to learn how to lead and be more assertive, which I lacked as a typical nice guy. But man, I learned so much more.

Fast forward a couple years, I have now done several classes of Salsa, Bachata, Tango, Ballroom, Cha Cha, Country Line Dancing, Swing, and Lindy Hop.

Here are some lessons I learned in being a man from these partner dances:

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10 Ways To Stay Positive No Matter What Negative Bullshit Comes Your Way

We aren’t perfect. We want to stay upbeat and positive all the time because it feels better, we feel better, and it helps us get more done and attract awesome people into our lives. But it’s hard. Life rocks us with tough times and negative people.

So how do you stay positive when your life isn’t going well or life events bring you down?

This has been a problem I have experimented with for years. I poured over the scientific literature, studied interviews and books of celebrities that always seemed upbeat (like Will Smith, Ellen DeGeneres, Oprah Winfrey, and Michael Strahan) and asked every person who was always beaming with positivity for advice.

I hold this problem deep in my heart because I was unhappy for a long stretch of time and naturally someone who dwells on negative events.

Why Does Positivity Matter?

Don’t take it from me; listen to one of the most famous, successful billionaires out there, Richard Branson. He wrote a blog post on why positivity is so important. Long story short, positivity can spread to others. It can make you and your team more productive and happy while making work more enjoyable.

Moreover, consider the downsides of negativity. I used to be a naturally negative person before I got into self help and I didn’t even realize it. Negative thinking can spiral downwards into depression, anxiety, lack of will to do anything, lack of energy, frustration, anger, resentment, frustration, jealousy, and/or a greater willingness to give up.

Here is what I found works:

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Why social intelligence is important

Why Social Intelligence Is Important

“Social intelligence was therefore always at a high premium. A sharp sense of empathy can make a huge difference, and with it in an ability to manipulate, to gain cooperation, and to deceive.”
― Edward O. Wilson, The Social Conquest of Earth

I’ve been a nerd for most of my life. I only cared about grades in school because I thought that was all that mattered.

But I was completely wrong.

As I grew older, poor social skills lead to bad results in other areas of my life. I had few friends. I barely talked in social gatherings. My dating life didn’t exist. Job interviews usually ended with no offer. Communicating with people I worked with wasn’t effective or natural. You get the point.

As I started trying to improve, I studied the world’s most successful, wealthy people. I realized that they were also very emotionally and socially intelligent too. I also found, through books like Outliers and Emotion Intelligence, that studies tracking thousands of people found that people with high IQs often still failed at life.

There were plenty of people who didn’t follow the standard correlation we assume between high IQ and life success. There were many more factors involved in success, once of which is social intelligence.

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How To Become Mentally Strong: Advice From The World’s Best

A year ago, I stumbled on an article on how to be mentally strong that got a ton of comments and shares. It confused me. Why do all these people care about this?

I didn’t care about being mentally tough. I wanted money and happiness. And I didn’t see how mental toughness would help me with that unless I wanted to change my goals to becoming a Navy SEAL. But everything’s changed since then.

Mental toughness is incredibly important to your peak performance.

Today, I’m going to share with you everything you need to know on a critical skill you may be overlooking. I’ll share with you why mental toughness matters and how to improve it. And if you’re wondering why you should trust me, it’s because all my advice comes from people you can trust: the world’s top performers.

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luck vs hard work debate

The Luck Vs. Hard Work Debate: What Matters Most In Life Success

What matters in life in order to success? The standard debate goes something like this, “What bring success in life: luck vs hard work?”

But that’s the wrong approach. Both are at play. It is not one or the other. Also, there are more factors you can leverage to succeed.

Today, I cover the following topics:

  • How luck plays a role in someone’s success.
  • How hard work is a lot more valuable than you think.
  • Keys to motivating yourself and having a strong work ethic.
  • What matters more: luck, hard work and effort, or other factors (I’ll explain what these other factors are).
  • Does luck play an important role in life success? (Hint: It depends. Are you aiming to be #1 in the world or just to earn a good living?)

You should trust my advice on the luck versus hard work debate because I reference proof and case studies from successful people like Warren Buffett and Bill Gates.

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How To Overcome Shyness and Social Anxiety While Still Being Your Natural Self

How To Overcome Shyness and Social Anxiety While Still Being Your Natural Self

Imagine finding yourself in the only social event you will go to for the day, ready to talk to people. You’ve prepared yourself for the moment. You know you’re deathly shy and scared of talking to new people. But if you don’t take action in this one moment, you will regret it. There won’t be many more chances to make new friends or meet a hot date.

But despite your preparations, you freeze up when it’s time. You find yourself doing anything except talking to other people. Then, the event is over.

You are kicking yourself in your head and you dwell on the fact that you did nothing for the next hour … or even the entire week.

I’ve been there. I’ve had crippling shyness. It sucks. It still sucks. But you are not alone. There are hordes of perfectly kind, mentally healthy people who are just too shy to do meet others. To this day, I still run into people (even successful, attractive young women) who struggle with these issues and fail to reach their potential.

I’m going to show you a path you can take to overcome shyness and social anxiety and achieve the friendships and relationships you have always wanted. Sound too good to be true? I understand. With such a sweet deal, you have to do something in exchange. And that is to be patient and consistently work through the process. It will take time.

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