The Secret Power of Being Fully Present in the Moment

How To Live in the Present in the Moment (And Why It’s Key)

With the rising popularity of emotional intelligence and meditation for success, a related concept has been popping up all the time: staying present in the moment.

What does “living in the here and now” actually mean?

This article will help you discover how being present can improve your wealth, happiness, love life, and relationships.

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How To Become A Top CrossFit Games Athlete: Secrets to Success

When you want to get better, you hang around the people who are already like how you want to be. At least that’s what people say…

Since I started my CrossFit journey a year ago, I figured that if I am going to do this, I might as well do it right. Why not learn from the best of the best? I studied all the interviews and videos of the best athletes I could find online. I dissected Rich Froning’s book and interviews to distill his CrossFit success secrets in its own article.

The next step was reaching out to any regional or CrossFit Games competitors and seeing if any were kind enough take the time to answer my questions. Here is what they said:

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Act Like A Success, Think Like A Success by Steve Harvey Book Summary

18 Lessons Steve Harvey Can Teach You About Success: A Book Summary and Review

Steve Harvey is one of the few who truly started from the bottom.

There are plenty of successful people who started in the middle of life with a good education and rose to the top. Steve flunked out of school, worked at a factory job, go fired, was homeless, and made up his mind to be a success when he was middle-aged.

I can list the names of people I know who started like that on my fingers: Richard Branson, John Paul DeJoria, Chris Gardner, Jim Carrey, Sylvester Stallone, Brian Tracy, and Tony Robbins.

When I first heard Steve’s story on YouTube, it struck me so deeply that I had to learn more. Why? Because some part me had lost hope but I saw that if Steve could change his life so late in the game, maybe I could too.

As always, I do a search to see if he wrote a book on success, not expecting to find anything.

Just like with Michael Strahan, I was surprised to find that he did. It is called Act Like A Success, Think Like A Success. Isn’t that interesting? You’d be amazed how many of your role models have written books explaining their secrets.

It’s a tragedy few people know about these books or bother to read them.

Steve’s book gives me a unique perspective. It’s not advice from someone who at the top. It’s coming from someone who came from the bottom.

By the end of this, any excuse you have, whether it’s “I don’t have the connections”, “I don’t have the skills”, “I don’t have the knowledge”, or “I don’t have the education” should be flushed out of you like turds in a toilet bowl. No excuses.

Many people die letting their false beliefs and excuses hold them back from their dreams. Don’t let this be you. Here are the top 18 lessons I learned from his book:

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Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell Summary

Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell: A Book Summary, Review, and Critique

Have you heard of the 10,000 hours rule? Popularized by the book Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell, it basically says that you need 10,000 hours to become a master or expert in a field.

Since then, it’s become a mainstream term in pop culture, even mentioned by famous artists:

Macklemore wrote a song about it.

Ed Sheeran agrees with it:

Well, it was popularized by the famous book Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell. But there are myths that need debunking about it…

Malcolm actually said that this idea was oversimplified by pop culture. Just because you practice 10,000 hours doesn’t guarantee success if you have no natural talent.

And he said it doesn’t apply to some things like sports. I would add that it’s not a specific number. It’s just a ballpark range.

I wanted to share some of the best advice in the book and give a review on it.

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New Scientific Study Reveals A Secret To Stop Procrastinating

New Scientific Study Reveals A Secret To Stop Procrastinating

For most of human civilization, procrastination advice has come from so-called experts, parents, relative,s and friends.

If you were smart, you would learn from one or two of the richest, most successful people you knew who doesn’t procrastinate. But even then, your advice was based on just a couple data sources and you couldn’t really be sure if it was the most accurate advice.

When you get advice from someone who is mediocre at what they’re giving advice on, it’s no surprise you get mediocre results.

Nowadays, we have access to hundreds of resources, interviews, and content from successful people. But even then, it may not be the best advice for you. That advice may have worked for them, but it may be different for you because you have your own unique challenges, strengths, weaknesses, and talent. You’re an average guy, like me, not a genetic genius, like them.

But now, we have a third valuable resource to turn to…

Science.

Today, I want to share with you a new scientific study done that reveals a secret to stop procrastinating:

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20 Rules for Success from Female Billionaire Martha Stewart

Did you know Martha Stewart was a female billionaire?

I bet you didn’t.

She’s not anymore, but at one point, she reached that level.

It’s interesting how unaware we are that really well-known female celebrities are billionaires even though they’re in the minority and should be celebrated.

I didn’t know Oprah Winfrey, Martha Stewart, and J.K. Rowling were until I did some research.

I read Martha’s book on success. This book is literally on how you can achieve success. It’s staggering how many successful people have written $10 books on these topics, yet no one is aware of them, let alone read them.

This book was a great read. There was a lot of lessons I really think that many women can relate to and I think it’s one of the best books to read for a women looking to become wealthy, happy, and successful.

Here are the top rules of success I picked up from the book:

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Why Defeating Shame & Vulnerability May Be The Key To Success: Daring Greatly by Brené Brown

Brené Brown is a University of Houston research professor who has spent decades studying shame and vulnerability.

For most of human civilization, men have hid behind the mask of masculinity, concealing any signs of shame and vulnerability because they believed that a man should never show weakness.

But it turns out that Brené found that vulnerability is a vital part of mental health, communication, and working relationships through her scientific study. Men are waking up and realizing this — even entrepreneurs like Lewis Howes have wrote books on it.

If you’re not familiar with the vulnerability, shame, and guilt movement, start out by checking our Brené’s TED talk, which has gotten millions of views:

“Vulnerability is not weakness. I define vulnerability as emotional risk, exposure, uncertainty … Vulnerability is our most accurate measure of courage.” -Brené Brown

Are you dealing with shame? How do you identify if you have it and how do you handle it? Listen to my podcast episode to find out:

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“Shame is a focus on self. Guilt is a focus on behavior.” -Brené Brown

Here are some key lessons I learned from her book, Daring Greatly: 

  • There is no data that shows there is any benefit to shame.
  • Shame resiliency is the ability to realize what you did is still worth it regardless of the risks of shame and embarrassment.
  • Shame resiliency is important and useful and can be improved.
  • Validating your self-worth based on the external is a recipe for disaster and shame. You must be okay with what you do and who you are regardless of what others think.
  • Vulnerability is not weakness. It is courage.
  • Denying vulnerability that exists is weakness because you have a weakness you’re not admitting.
  • Vulnerability is not revealing your deepest secrets to strangers. Get to know someone and see if you can trust them first.
  • Trust must be slowly built over time.
  • Every action that someone you know takes to show their reliability (or lack thereof) is another score on your trust scorecard to determine if you can trust them.
  • Men get their shame not only from other men, but also from the women they know. Women also get massive shame from other women. Both genders try to live up to a perfect ideal of who they have to be that’s impossible.
  • Research shows that there is nothing good to perfectionism. It leads to depression, life paralysis, and many other issues. It’s caused through approval-seeking.
  • The data shows that shame is correlated with depression and suicide, while guilt is inversely correlated. Therefore, you want to train yourself, your children, and others to use guilt rather than shame. Get them to shame stuff like, “I made a stupid decision” rather than “I am a stupid person.”

My Own Shame

Discovering these books and reflecting on my own experiences with shame have been a wake-up call. Since I was young, I would have flash-backs to experiences I had that would seep shame and embarrassment. Usually, this occurred when my mind was free, like in the shower or driving.

After listening to The Mating Grounds podcast, I realized this is fairly common. Rather than push away the thoughts like I used to, I was encouraged to come to terms with them.

This has helped me meet these memories and feelings head-on. I came to realize that some of that shame is illogical.

For example, I would think, “I can’t believe I barged into that conversation and mentioned how I went to visit the same city recently. I must have come off like I was bragging and full of myself.”

But when I assess the situation, I was placing way too much shame and assumption on myself for simply trying to be part of a conversation. I will take these lessons and try to be more compassionate with myself.

Loving-kindness meditation has been helpful.

This whole topic has helped me become more self-aware of how I treat myself. I have realized that I need more self-love and need to stop beating myself up at times for fear of offending people.

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Ultimate Mens Dating Guide

Mate by Tucker Max Book Summary and Review: The New Science of Attraction (Updated)

A few years ago, I discovered the world of online dating advice. At the time, I felt like I had discovered a super power. Until that point, I thought that your success with women was fixed and there was nothing you could do about it. Finding out there were techniques I could use immediately to improve was like discovering the holy grail.

Unfortunately, these tactics and “blueprints” were horrible. They were inaccurate and produced few results. Dating coaches and pick up artists claimed to have found the “science of attraction” but it was a pseudoscience at best. They really just shot at the dark and taught what worked. It was far from a rigorous scientific process.

Now, that has changed. In the last two decades, tons of new experiments have been done by actual scientists on attraction. There is a lot more data you can trust and the results can be counter-intuitive. This is the men’s dating guide I wish I received years ago. And it’s all here for you for free.

The lessons I learned and will share come from a book called Mate: Become the Man Women Want. The book is based on extensive research on into evolutionary biology and mating. A man who is really good with women (Tucker Max) partnered up with a Ph.D. to go through thousands of shocking studies.

Humans are lucky creatures because there are so many areas (behavioral, social, fitness, mental health, fashion, etc.) we can improve. Other animals are screwed with what they were born with (like how long their antlers are).

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Books written by billionaires

169 Books Written By Billionaires (A Constantly Updated, Complete List)

If you read all of these, you will not come out the same person you came in (and I mean in a good way).

Here is a list of all the books written by billionaires.

I have looked all over the Internet for a list and I have yet to find a list that even comes close to what I’ve compiled here. The reason is simply because no one seems to be as plugged into the billionaire universe and the books out there as me. Nor have many people set out a goal to read most or any of them.

Richard Branson made a good point in his book that news and internet estimates of net worth are usually wildly off in both directions.

I tried my best to make this list as accurate as possible. I put more weight on the only two net worth sources I trust: Forbes Net Worth Billionaire List and Fortune. If I had any doubt if people were billionaires, I put their books in a separate list in a section at the bottom.

If you know of a book by a billionaire not on this list, leave a comment. I will keep updating this page. 

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Mark Manson Membership Review and Demo

An Honest Review of Mark Manson’s Paid Membership Program

For a night of great entertainment, I recommend watching one of the events in the CrossFit Games. I like to watch this for the competition, motivation, ridiculousness , fun, and the fit women in sports bras.

Here’s a video of the “Individual Assault Banger” event, for example. They literally have to smash a 175 pound block with a big red hammer through their legs and across the field.

Other than random CrossFit videos, I like to spend my time improving my earning potential, happiness, relationships, health, and work towards my dream life — and that’s why I purchased Mark Manson’s membership program.

If you’re not familiar with Mark, he’s one of the top personal development bloggers, with a site that attracts millions of readers every month and a new New York Times #1 best-selling book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck, which has already sold over a million copies. He has a blunt style of telling you how to improve your life — and he backs it up with science and case studies of successful people.

I bought his paid membership, which features a few full-length courses, premium articles, and bonuses. Here’s my honest review of it…

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Should you drop out of high school or college?

Can You Get Rich Without A High School Diploma or College?

It can seem like most billionaires were born into rich or middle-class families. But can someone really get rich from nothing? Can they really be self-made?

Also, it seems like they all made their money through starting a business in a boring industry. But can you become a billionaire without having to start a business? Can you do it in a non-boring, new industry?

Maybe. Let me show you how…

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When Working Harder Isn't Working - Work Smarter Not Harder Dont Overwork like Gary Vaynerchuk

Read This When Working Harder Isn’t Making Life Better

As I have been poring over books on social anxiety, entrepreneurship, and nice guy qualities, I have come across a shocking realization…

Working harder is not always a symbol of achievement. Sometimes, it’s worn as one in disguise, but in reality, it’s an excuse to avoid doing something uncomfortable.

This is especially important because:

  • Doing what makes you know needs to be done, even if it’s uncomfortable, is crucial for success in life.
  • American society paints the hustler who works 18 hour days as a champion and therefore, it’s easy to hide under this lie.

One story from the book, No More Mr. Mice Guy, is a great illustration:

An accountant, who was the author’s client, was taught by his parents that money was the most important thing in life to success and happiness. Therefore, he spent the first 40 years of his life working non-stop, thinking that women would naturally come to him once he was rich…

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